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How many of you have a partner who can't make simple compromises like skipping a sex or nudity scene because they believe they're being "disrespectful" to the artist by not watching the full/entire movie and in extension how many of you think that's a bunch of bullshit excuses to see other women being intimate outside of the relationship? Especially in cases where you've made a clear boundary that you aren't comfortable with your partner watching porn (dealbreaker discomfort).

I'm seriously struggling with this. I really love my partner; I want to be with him and when everything else is considered this is my ideal relationship. But I don't know if I can move past this and how long we can last. He expresses that it's hard for him to understand, sometimes dismisses my trauma and tries to define my reactions as "stressors" when they're actually triggers (I think this is so it can make it easier for him to cross boundaries), tells me that we have to get to a place where I can be comfortable with him watching it at least sometimes...and honestly I don't know if I'll ever get there or that it will ever change. I tell him maybe in the future when I trust him more, but I can't shake the feeling that I'm SO UNCOMFORTABLE with compromising my own morals and moving my boundaries for this guy.

This is due to trauma but I also feel like it's a fundamental belief I have about monogamy and how I want a long-term commitment to be. He says if we get to a point where I've moved past my trauma (essentially nearly cured from my CPTSD), and it's still a fundamental belief I hold, it may be a deal-breaker -- but we'll just have to try and see. But I'm just frustrated. He's not watching those things now but he's somehow always finding ways to try and rush my recovery. I need advice or maybe some comforting responses just to know I'm not alone in thinking this is ridiculous. I'm disheartened that he seems to want to respect a random movie director he doesn't know over me, someone he apparently wants to "marry." (And I was thinking about that this morning...I'm laughing at myself for ever believing that. I think it's far more unlikely than I thought that he'd get married to me at this stage. So I'm starting to lose hope and not seeing the point.)
 
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I feel this SO MUCH you have NO idea. I also haven't had this problem nearly as bad until I started dating my boyfriend. I had never actually had sex before until him, it's a bit complicated but I had a not so good encounter with a female I won't name, and it left me very confused and I didn't realize until I was older that it was peer pressured and borderline abuse..anyway, other than that I had sworn off sex for almost my whole life. I was terrified of intimacy and being vulnerable with someone like that, especially a man.

But my man is so sweet and considerate, that things thankfully worked themselves out. However it seems that gained intimacy has come at a price for me now.

I also get incredibly angry at media over their sexualization of women and people in general. I'm bisexual and I will admit women are very attractive, but I don't want to see a women fully naked on a screen in my open living room. 🙄

And I struggle with opening the internet pretty much everyday. Just like you said it's everywhere. Even watching my innocent dog and cat tiktoks there's always some girl who has to wear a skimpy outfit and talk about her only fans.

I have no problem with people doing their own thing but...it's increasingly obvious just how much sex sells. And it seriously bothers me. It makes me feel so inhuman but at the same time even more so a human...if that makes sense...??? Like...I am on the same ground level as these other humans...and yet I feel so dirty whenever anything sexual is on tv, or in a book, or song, etc.

I've had many conversations with my boyfriend about it and he honestly can't really wrap my head around his (excuse my language) non-give-a-shit attitude towards sex and nudity in all forms of media. I just can't understand how he can sit through a 30 second (or longer) sex scene and not wanna just punch a damn hole in the wall haha.

I don't honestly think I'll ever not feel this way, but I hope at least I can learn to cope better and not have such intense reactions. I was talking to my bf and a friend of my mom's who's daughter has a service dog who trains in anxiety and seizers. I'm hoping someday I can get a dog who can be taught compression therapy and help me ease my attacks. :)

Anyway enough about me. I'm glad you can still be intimate with your partner and he tries to understand you. I also hope we can get older and not have this plague us for the rest of our lives.

Thank you for replying to me, it felt so good to read your comment and basically feel validated with every word. I hope you're doing okay today. It's okay to have bad days every once in a while. Just don't let it overtake you. ( I admit I still have trouble with that sometimes..it takes one step at a time. ;) )
Just wanted to say I really relate to you (especially about struggling to open the internet...seriously it's everywhere!) and I'm happy you found someone who seems to be willing to compromise and reassure you.
 
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hey just read your post and i’m in the same boat sort of, i hate sex scenes so much it’s unreal, it’s coming to the point where i have such a huge fear of it, whenever i see one come on tv whilst i’m watching a movie i feel like throwing my remote at it and just screaming into the pillow, why the hell is everything so hypersexualised, i stopped watching porn after me and my boyfriend started dating, my boyfriend says he’s stopped watching porn too bc he knew that i felt uncomfortable with it, is he telling the truth? i guess we’ll never know, but when i see sexual tiktoks youtube videos etc, it enrages me so bad like why are humans like this it’s so disgusting, i never got bothered by sex scenes until i started dating my boyfriend, and now i have a problem with anything sexual in the media (even though i have sex with my boyfriend regularly) it’s very hard for me to distinguish between reality and fiction.
You’re not alone bc it’s honestly makes me anxious too, my bf knows i hate sex scenes but he says we can always skip them but it still puts me off, i guess it’s coming to the point where i sort of hate men in a way bc they’re sort of the reason why eveything is so hyper sexualised, i don’t want to hate men bc i know so many good men and that men irl aren’t all like that, the whole discourse between men and women hurts my head too much as a woman bc i never had a crap encounter w a man and it’s coming to the point where i get disgusted when men sexualise women on tv even tho women do the same thing so i’m sort of turning into a hypocrite in a way like sort of dictating what i think men should and shouldn’t do, anyway sorry if that seems a little off topic i just needed to vent, i just wanted to share my experience with you since i relate so much. i hope when we’re older we can recover from this soon bc i feel as if it will affect me and my boyfriends relationship
Wow I wish I had a partner who would at least skip scenes. Not trying to downplay what you're going through in any way, I'm just feeling a bit wishful.. he just decided not to watch those movies at all (for now) but I can tell it's probably going to turn into him resenting me and in the meantime he's finding ways to rush my recovery. Anyway...you're not alone. I'm beyond tired of the oversexualization of media. It's ridiculous. I hardly want to watch TV or look at the internet anymore because it's everywhere. We were watching TPIR yesterday and even then they had to sexualize one of the female hosts. It honestly makes me sick of being alive.
 
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Just wanted to say I really relate to you (especially about struggling to open the internet...seriously it's everywhere!) and I'm happy you found someone who seems to be willing to compromise and reassure you.
Thanks so much for saying that! It really does help having a partner who's willing to at least try and accommodate for something like this. But even so it's still a real struggle. It's literally everywhere. Even in a show as tame as Vampire Diaries (which has a tv-14 rating) still has some sensual makeout scenes. While those aren't nearly as uncomfortable, they're still sensual and can cause discomfort for someone as sensitive as I am. I've been slowly learning to get less reactive to it tho which is nice! Anyway off track-

Being that it's everywhere, it can make it hard to find anything good to watch with my boyfriend because all the other really good looking supernatural, or otherwise "adult" tv shows and movies always have at LEAST 1 sex scene that is a 4 or higher on my personal "sex scale" as I call it.

(A 0-1 is basically not even sex, just making out. 2-4 is anywhere from clothed making out/touching to at least someone's shirt off, and the rest are Netflix and game of thrones level stuff.)

I can only handle to around a 3 with anyone around, but even still only about that much on my own. 👀

There is a bright side tho!!! I recently discovered a video on YouTube called "6 lies of childhood trauma I'll send the link. And one was about sex and it actually really opened my eyes to what I was feeling and where some of my issues were coming from. Now obviously this won't fix everything or anything like that...but it personally brought me some insight on myself and actually in a weird way brought me comfort. It is a little rough though, it can bring up some feelings so just a little warning for you. But there's no triggering visuals or anything so it's safe.

Also regarding your other comment about your partner: maybe try explaining it to him in the way you did to us? Like how it's uncontrollable and painful for you. And honestly I can completely understand the feeling of being with someone's who's perfect in every way except that ONE thing. My bf and I are still struggling with him watching that stuff at all. I do admit I could losen the reins a little bit and not worry too much about that's he's watching when I'm not around...but at the same time I struggle thinking about the fact that he's watching it at all. If that makes sense...sometimes these are things we just have to work through together, and there is no clean cut solution. Especially not in the begining. I make it sound like ice been in a 30 year relationship lol, but honestly I guess really just sit down with them and rather than reason, just let each other express how you feel, and really try to understand each other.

I'm not much help since I don't fully understand the reasoning behind wanting to "support the director"...you can skip a scene and still support them by even watching the show in the first place...

Um anyway, don't wanna dis on anyone so I'll just leave it at that. I totally understand how your feeling and that's a really frustrating situation.

I'd say just try and see if maybe there's more to the story that both of you aren't seeing from each other? A lot of times I have problems with my bf or family etc. Is because of lack of communication. Wether it's withholding information because of fear of judgment, or not being able to express themselves properly, etc. Theresa lot of reasons someone may not be communicating to you properly, even possibly without knowing it. The worst that can happen is they refuse to talk, or don't care to try and fix anything.

I guess my last advice would be to say that if they aren't willing to fix any of their behavior or they don't want to compromise with you...maybe it would be best to think about the relationship as a whole..your partner should support you and want to do whatever they can to make you feel comfortable and happy. Someone who isn't willing to change now, never will. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe there's more to the story than that.

Whatever the case may be I wish you the best of luck, and if you need to talk more I'm happy to. :)
 
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Thanks so much for saying that! It really does help having a partner who's willing to at least try and accommodate for something like this. But even so it's still a real struggle. It's literally everywhere. Even in a show as tame as Vampire Diaries (which has a tv-14 rating) still has some sensual makeout scenes. While those aren't nearly as uncomfortable, they're still sensual and can cause discomfort for someone as sensitive as I am. I've been slowly learning to get less reactive to it tho which is nice! Anyway off track-

Being that it's everywhere, it can make it hard to find anything good to watch with my boyfriend because all the other really good looking supernatural, or otherwise "adult" tv shows and movies always have at LEAST 1 sex scene that is a 4 or higher on my personal "sex scale" as I call it.

(A 0-1 is basically not even sex, just making out. 2-4 is anywhere from clothed making out/touching to at least someone's shirt off, and the rest are Netflix and game of thrones level stuff.)

I can only handle to around a 3 with anyone around, but even still only about that much on my own. 👀

There is a bright side tho!!! I recently discovered a video on YouTube called "6 lies of childhood trauma I'll send the link. And one was about sex and it actually really opened my eyes to what I was feeling and where some of my issues were coming from. Now obviously this won't fix everything or anything like that...but it personally brought me some insight on myself and actually in a weird way brought me comfort. It is a little rough though, it can bring up some feelings so just a little warning for you. But there's no triggering visuals or anything so it's safe.

Also regarding your other comment about your partner: maybe try explaining it to him in the way you did to us? Like how it's uncontrollable and painful for you. And honestly I can completely understand the feeling of being with someone's who's perfect in every way except that ONE thing. My bf and I are still struggling with him watching that stuff at all. I do admit I could losen the reins a little bit and not worry too much about that's he's watching when I'm not around...but at the same time I struggle thinking about the fact that he's watching it at all. If that makes sense...sometimes these are things we just have to work through together, and there is no clean cut solution. Especially not in the begining. I make it sound like ice been in a 30 year relationship lol, but honestly I guess really just sit down with them and rather than reason, just let each other express how you feel, and really try to understand each other.

I'm not much help since I don't fully understand the reasoning behind wanting to "support the director"...you can skip a scene and still support them by even watching the show in the first place...

Um anyway, don't wanna dis on anyone so I'll just leave it at that. I totally understand how your feeling and that's a really frustrating situation.

I'd say just try and see if maybe there's more to the story that both of you aren't seeing from each other? A lot of times I have problems with my bf or family etc. Is because of lack of communication. Wether it's withholding information because of fear of judgment, or not being able to express themselves properly, etc. Theresa lot of reasons someone may not be communicating to you properly, even possibly without knowing it. The worst that can happen is they refuse to talk, or don't care to try and fix anything.

I guess my last advice would be to say that if they aren't willing to fix any of their behavior or they don't want to compromise with you...maybe it would be best to think about the relationship as a whole..your partner should support you and want to do whatever they can to make you feel comfortable and happy. Someone who isn't willing to change now, never will. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe there's more to the story than that.

Whatever the case may be I wish you the best of luck, and if you need to talk more I'm happy to. :)
Thank you so much for your response, I really appreciate it and I'll for sure be checking that video out. I've tried to explain it in many ways including how difficult it is for me, he's even seen me have panic attacks because of it (which some reason was still interpreted as a stressor instead of what it is), but maybe there's just more I have to say. He says he just doesn't get it. He's even looked through threads like this, is following forums about (C)PTSD to learn more about that in general, etc. to no avail really. I've tried to open up and share my trauma with him as much as possible but there's some things I'm not comfortable saying yet, it's too hard and brings up too many feelings and it's like I'm reliving it!

I don't get it, either. He said something like " if you skip scenes, you can't say you really watched the movie" which kind of offended me and feels like erasure of people who have to skip scenes for a multitude of reasons. For example, maybe someone can't deal with too much violence or they don't want to see a pet passing away...if they skip a little, yes theoretically they didn't see every second of the movie, but they're still respecting the director and can still form a meaningful opinion about it, right? At least, that's what I think. I think this rhetoric is extra ridiculous because the majority of the time (at least for mainstream / Hollywood type movies and shows) sex scenes and nudity are not for plot enhancement, character development, or anything other than to cater to the male gaze. I can't see that as someone trying to create something really artistic that has value and needs to be appreciated, but idk maybe I just have a bias I guess. Sorry to ramble on about that.

Anyway, I strongly agree with you about TV shows, especially on Netflix. Riverdale is rated TV-14 for god's sake and there's a stripper scene of one of the characters, who's playing as an underaged high school girl! It feels cheap pretty much all of the time I see it. I have a scale, too; make-out scenes make me uncomfortable but it's tolerable. Once clothes are taken off though, there's cleavage, etc. it's already past a point that I can deal with. On my own and as pertaining to my partner. :(

As for rethinking the relationship as a whole...all I can say is that I hope it doesn't come to that but if it gets to a certain point where either of us can't take it anymore, I won't postpone it.
 
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Thank you so much for your response, I really appreciate it and I'll for sure be checking that video out. I've tried to explain it in many ways including how difficult it is for me, he's even seen me have panic attacks because of it (which some reason was still interpreted as a stressor instead of what it is), but maybe there's just more I have to say. He says he just doesn't get it. He's even looked through threads like this, is following forums about (C)PTSD to learn more about that in general, etc. to no avail really. I've tried to open up and share my trauma with him as much as possible but there's some things I'm not comfortable saying yet, it's too hard and brings up too many feelings and it's like I'm reliving it!

I don't get it, either. He said something like " if you skip scenes, you can't say you really watched the movie" which kind of offended me and feels like erasure of people who have to skip scenes for a multitude of reasons. For example, maybe someone can't deal with too much violence or they don't want to see a pet passing away...if they skip a little, yes theoretically they didn't see every second of the movie, but they're still respecting the director and can still form a meaningful opinion about it, right? At least, that's what I think. I think this rhetoric is extra ridiculous because the majority of the time (at least for mainstream / Hollywood type movies and shows) sex scenes and nudity are not for plot enhancement, character development, or anything other than to cater to the male gaze. I can't see that as someone trying to create something really artistic that has value and needs to be appreciated, but idk maybe I just have a bias I guess. Sorry to ramble on about that.

Anyway, I strongly agree with you about TV shows, especially on Netflix. Riverdale is rated TV-14 for god's sake and there's a stripper scene of one of the characters, who's playing as an underaged high school girl! It feels cheap pretty much all of the time I see it. I have a scale, too; make-out scenes make me uncomfortable but it's tolerable. Once clothes are taken off though, there's cleavage, etc. it's already past a point that I can deal with. On my own and as pertaining to my partner. :(

As for rethinking the relationship as a whole...all I can say is that I hope it doesn't come to that but if it gets to a certain point where either of us can't take it anymore, I won't postpone it.
I completely understand where your coming from. I actually kind of wonder if maybe he can't understand because he hasn't gone though trama before? Maybe you should ask him, cause if he hasn't than it could make a pretty significant difference in his response to how your feeling.

Part of the reason my bf is so sensitive to me is because he's suffered trama too. Not in the same way but he can draw from his own experiences and empathize with me. So maybe that's the issue...?

That or maybe he's abrasive and stubborn because he feels like he has to give up his own rituals and lifestyle to suit your needs and he sees it more as a sacrifice than a compromise, or an adjustment to make you more comfortable?? I honestly can't say I understand that reasoning at a certain point. Cause personally if I was doing something that caused this much distress in my partner(especially when it gets bad enough to cause self harm like me and others in this forum), then I can't see how changing that behavior is really that much of a sacrifice.

I don't understand the logic in humans needing sex to live a normal life, or at the very least needing to be comfortable and enjoy watching it on tv...

I watched another video regarding the misrepresentation of asexuals on YouTube, and that too had some parallels that really spoke to me. Now, I'm not saying anyone here is or isn't asexual, but it was still a very interesting video and it talked about the frustrations of people like this who don't have a healthy or realistic representation of asexuals in movies and tv.

More specifically how characters don't have to have sexual relationships to be romantic. And this I 100% agree with. But more so with characters in tv, because a lot of what we learn is by what we see, and I myself have struggled by being told that my relationships could suffer if there isn't some type of sex being had in the relationship. This personally is toxic and just someone projecting their own ideas and "logic" onto me. But anyway my point is, a lot of times you see characters having sex as a sign that their in a relationship together and this can cause problems for people like us because I love seeing characters in shows get together, but I don't need to see them having sex to know they're together, nor should that even have to be a confirmation for me to make that conclusion. Why can't we have characters who love each other in adult movies and tv, without us needing to sit though the sex? It honestly just feels like an excuse to throw a quick porn segment on the screen. Even if it's not that graphic.

But idk, maybe I'm just immature and Im blowing this out of proportion. I just don't think we need to have sex crammed down our throats like that. Especially in an entertainment fashion.

Like I said in my past post, I don't see sex and r*pe scenes as entertainment, it just makes me feel disgusting and traumatized. No matter the dynamic of the people doing it, consentual adults or otherwise. It's explicit and fowl almost. Idk I don't really posses the vocabulary to express what I'm feeling but it's just really intense and vulgar.

Anyway not to completely detour from everything I just needed to vent and kinda explain my thought process. XD

But I too don't care for more than makeout scenes because even those make me worry that clothes are gonna start coming off and that vamps up my anxiety REALLY fast.

Which can be really stressful cause all I wanna do is just relax and enjoy my show, but I'm constantly on edge cause what if the rating lies? Or they didn't bother to give it a sex warning because it's "not explicit enough", you know?

And people just call me sensitive but it's so much more than that, it's literally panic attacks and my anxiety disorder I have to live with every single day. And even intrusive thoughts about the things I've seen and heard over the years can send me into a mess for the rest of the day. Even in the middle of work I can suddenly be bombarded with thoughts and emotions and it can be really difficult to keep those emotions contained.

People don't realize just how bad this is and it really sucks..

Anyway, I also hope you don't have to worry about your relationship as a whole and you guys can work things out. I know me and my partner still have things to figure out, but it's okay to take things one step at a time, not everything needs to be solved all at once. Just he patient with each other and hopefully things will work out for the best.

I hope you guys can come to a conclusion that will make both of you happy. :)
 
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It’s crazy to me that so many people feel the same way I do. I seriously thought there was something wrong with me and that I’m crazy and the only one who thinks this way. I’ve never been able to talk about it with anyone before. Im 21. I keep wanting to make an appointment to go to my old therapist but then I don’t. I don’t feel like I can talk to even a therapist without them thinking I’m crazy or being dramatic. It really makes me feel shitty. I’ll sit here and think about it for hours on end. I feel crazy. I hate shows/ movies w sex scenes, it makes me feel degraded and like I am not good enough. It disgusts me that so many women show their bodies like it’s nothing. And from what I can see, most of everyone on here that has a problem with sex/nudity scenes are women. I feel like naked women in movies are shown way more than naken guys. It makes me feel disrespected? I don’t understand why so many movies have these scenes and it is considered “normal”. I cannot stand knowing the fact that my bf is watching movies w sex/ nudity scenes. Even if it’s just boobs. And of course, most of the naked bodies shown are “perfect” or big boobs/ butt/ fake. It makes me so upset on the inside. I seriously suffer from this and I don’t know how to make it stop. I just want to be “normal”. If anyone would be willing to talk to me I’d really appreciate it. I feel a little better knowing I’m not the only one who seriously suffers from this.
 
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I am so so happy I found this thread! I wondered if I was crazy, too damaged or even ruined because I share these thoughts and feelings about nudity online and on tv. It angers me to no end that women are shown naked or nearly naked so much. I can say its certainly not equal objectivacation of women and men.. It angers me that some women allow and are so eager themselves to be objectified as just sexual objects and toys for men's pleasure. Why do women wish to degrade themselves and other women. It drives me crazy to have to sit and watch a movie or show or even music videos with naked women or nearly naked women with my husband viewing these women as well. I morally feel like it is wrong for my husband to see any other woman but me naked. Women on tv are real women, just because its on tv does not make me feel any better or see things differently. I've come not watch movies with female nudity which means my husband does not either. I've often asked him, "how would you feel if you had to sit with me and be bombarded with naked unrealistic male bodies on screen?" I dont think its wrong to set boundaries or standards in a marriage. I told my husband before marriage that this behavior will not be tolerated. It was a deal breaker for me because I find it so incredibly disrespectful and disgusting to view other women in such an intimate state when a man is married and in a committed relationship. I have no desire to even look at or notice other men and I expect the same from my partner. I think more women need to speak up and stand up for themselves, their relationship and other women to say this culture of objectifying and putting unrealistic expectations of how women look should out there in our faces needs to stop! For our daughters, for our future generations of women...we need to start a revolution!
I agree with everything you said. I only wish it were that simple that men wouldn’t look at movies/shows / music videos etc. my bf gets mad at me when I am upset over these things. He says I’m being “toxic”
 
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I agree with everything you said. I only wish it were that simple that men wouldn’t look at movies/shows / music videos etc. my bf gets mad at me when I am upset over these things. He says I’m being “toxic”
boyfriend wants me to watch the suicide squad with him, apparently it’s a good movie but it’s rated 15 so i wanted to see why by looking at the parents guide, it has a fair amount of nudity and it’s in the cinema we’re watching it in so we can’t even skip it! he thinks i’m insane for caring about those scenes, all i know is if i watch it then i’m gonna throw up or maybe even run out of the cinema full of disgust, he doesn’t know how bad it is for me. im sorry your boyfriend called you toxic, i don’t think you are, i think your boundaries are clear and nice and to be honest there’s nothing wrong with skipping those scenes bc half of the time it isn’t part of the plot anyway
 
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Omg that’s crazy you just said that. I specifically looked this up on google about how I feel, because my boyfriend is at the movies this very minute watching suicide squad. I also looked up the parental guide and saw it said naked boobs/ sex and strip club. I cant even tell him I’m upset about it. Thank you for replying it’s so crazy to me that you said the EXACT thing I’m upset about right now
 
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Omg that’s crazy you just said that. I specifically looked this up on google about how I feel, because my boyfriend is at the movies this very minute watching suicide squad. I also looked up the parental guide and saw it said naked boobs/ sex and strip club. I cant even tell him I’m upset about it. Thank you for replying it’s so crazy to me that you said the EXACT thing I’m upset about right now
that’s so strange haha what a weird coincidence! tbh i’m scared of watching it with him bc it’s just so awkward and embarrassing it’ll be like watching porn together, if i were u i would just sort of pretend ur boyfriend didn’t care about those scenes… ignorance is bliss anyways lol
 
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I try to ignore it but I can’t. These thoughts just keep popping up in my head. The fact that he is seeing these things and there’s nothing I can do about it. Ever. Like seriously EVERYWHERE has sex/ nudity. Every social media site, tik tok , YouTube, music videos etc etc.
 
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maybe try watching movies with shirtless guys in it ? like twilight, i think watching movies with hot dudes would help u sort of see it in ur own pov, but just remember i’m sure your sure your boyfriend cares for u lots, he probably just doesn’t understand the issue bc shirtless people are everywhere lol, maybe one day he’ll understand if u have a heart to heart with him
 
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guys my bf wants me to watch the suicide squad with him in the cinema and apparently there’s a 7 minute sex scene god i feel like crying and throwing up what the hell, i can’t say no bc i’ll feel bad but what the hell am i supposed to do during the scene :low:
 
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guys my bf wants me to watch the suicide squad with him in the cinema and apparently there’s a 7 minute sex scene god i feel like crying and throwing up what the hell, i can’t say no bc i’ll feel bad but what the hell am i supposed to do during the scene :low:
Really? I looked up the rating and it only said breif nudity...? Maybe I wasn't looking in the right place.

I'd say go with whatever your comfortable with. If you can't sit through it then don't. Its important to set boundaries with your partner and have them understand that that's not your thing, and it doesn't have to be. Sure it's not the whole movie, but it can ruin the whole thing for you anyway.

I hope this helps.
 
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J Massive phobia of the dentist Phobia Forum 2
L Chronic consistent phobia of my bad breath [serious - long post] Phobia Forum 9
harlope I don’t know what my phobia is nor how to deal with it. Phobia Forum 3
H Embarrassing driving phobia Phobia Forum 10
Emikin I have a phobia of toilets, spiders,lifts and a fear of my autism Phobia Forum 5
S Phobia of smells? Phobia Forum 2
J Not sure if this is a phobia but.. Phobia Forum 1
S Germ phobia Phobia Forum 2
Ace_Hart Therapist phobia ? Phobia Forum 3
N Phobia of sex and nudity in films Phobia Forum 41
O Phobia.. of stupid things. Anxiety driven? Phobia Forum 1
M Chemical Phobia Phobia Forum 2
C New, never spoken to other people about my phobia, currently panicked Phobia Forum 3
bluestar ocean I'm scared of getting sun on my face or neck for years. The reason is I heard in ages the skin. Could that be considered a phobia? Phobia Forum 3
J Spider phobia Phobia Forum 10
G Phobia of wearing new clothes in public Phobia Forum 12
S Eliminate phobia Phobia Forum 3
LORD BURT Phobia of mice Phobia Forum 11
J Phobia Phobia Forum 2
I Dentist phobia Phobia Forum 2
I Driving phobia Phobia Forum 4
kingkylie Can someone influence you on having a phobia? Phobia Forum 12
K My Weird Food Phobia Phobia Forum 3
S Major Phobia of Doctors/Hospitals Phobia Forum 5
K loud noises phobia, how do i get rid of it? Phobia Forum 1
F Phobia of young people growing gray hair Phobia Forum 3
L Can U tell me the name of this phobia? Phobia Forum 6
R3G0SH1 What phobia might this be? Phobia Forum 1
Duggie I have Phobia about Perpy Gang Stalkers Phobia Forum 0
D Word-Phobia Phobia Forum 4
A phobia of not dying- anyone else? Phobia Forum 4
R Phobia inner voice Phobia Forum 2
Z Blood pressure phobia Phobia Forum 4
B Extreme phobia: physically losing control + hospitals (long!!) Phobia Forum 2
H Illness phobia Phobia Forum 3
A Phobia of Underground tubes, metros, escalators, close/open spaces Phobia Forum 4
O Severe Diarrhea phobia. I need help Phobia Forum 6
H belly warm phobia Phobia Forum 3
B Aeroplane Phobia Phobia Forum 1
I very weird phobia, advice appreciated Phobia Forum 18
J Severe phobia of blood tests Phobia Forum 5
S A new treatment for social phobia. Phobia Forum 11
L Phobia or OCD? Phobia Forum 1
J Needle phobia - some advice please Phobia Forum 11
S Dentist phobia Phobia Forum 24
N Toilet Phobia. Phobia Forum 8
Azelka Phobia of getting assaulted Phobia Forum 4

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