• Welcome! It’s great to see you.

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life.

    If you'd like to talk with people who know what it's like

How would you feel or react to this...?

L

Lostpossum

Member
Joined
Feb 17, 2021
Messages
24
Location
United States
How would you feel/react if you had an unexpected pregnancy 5 years into a relationship then upon announcing it to your boyfriend, who has anxiety issues, he has a panic attack about finances and figuring everything out during it considering you both were unemployed, living at your seperate parents? He shares he doesnt know if he is ready to be a father but he will do whatever he can to make it work.

Then once he calmed down, he wrote you a letter apologizing about the panic attack and explains his panic, then wants to support you and figure everything out.

How would you react/feel about him panicking to this situation?

Would you feel like he does not love you or does not want to be with you?
 
C

CabbageMama

Well-known member
Joined
Feb 7, 2021
Messages
668
Location
UK
I think, while the panic is horrible for you, it is a process for him. He is understandably worried about your financial situation, probably had to go through the emotions about being your actual life partner, rather than your boyfriend, also the prospect of being a Father too, whether he could and would be a good one. I would try to understand his shock, give him a little break, after all, he has tried to make it right. And many congratulations to you both!

I was hideously horrible when I fell pregnant with mine, those initial hormones. Ended up testing in a panic, testing my Husband at the time on the phone while he was at work as part of a get out/apology. No romance in our conceptions! 😂
 
MeAndMyDepression

MeAndMyDepression

Well-known member
Joined
Feb 6, 2021
Messages
1,225
Location
Punta Gorda, Florida, USA
I think it would be good for both of you if you attended therapy sessions together to express your thoughts and feelings to a therapist and to each other in a non-judgmental atmosphere.
 
J

JeanPierre

Well-known member
Joined
Jan 4, 2021
Messages
2,146
Location
Southern USA
Oh my dear, an unexpected pregnancy will do that!
A complete life changing event and you both are now responsible for a whole another
person, life and stable mental health for all 3 of you.
"I wish I knew then what I know now"
Blessings and Congratulations. ❤

(My ex husband ran to the bathroom and threw up when I told him I was pregnant 40 years ago...lol)
 
Similar threads
Thread starter Title Forum Replies Date
R i feel like a degenerate Depression Forum 3
T Do you feel the modern world discourages novelty Depression Forum 5
L I Feel Like Lashing Out... Depression Forum 5
sirhamsy Today i feel so empty Depression Forum 2
Sendmetothevoid13 Do you ever feel like you're existing and not living? Depression Forum 34
K I feel very lost in general Depression Forum 11
ILikePancakes I Feel Like I shouldn't Get Help Depression Forum 3
B Feel like ending it Depression Forum 12
Amelia2020 Feel depressed about how distant and cold my family is Depression Forum 6
I Feel very depressed Depression Forum 21
P Feel so unloved Depression Forum 6
doexdeer Do you ever feel like Depression Forum 7
K How does it feel to say it out loud for the first time? Depression Forum 20
P I feel so useless and depressed because I can't drive Depression Forum 2
T I feel so guilty because of how apathetic/empty I am. Depression Forum 2
K Feel like i'm slowly giving up Depression Forum 3
ILikePancakes I Feel Sad Depression Forum 2
Sxzopen I feel lonely and I want to disappear Depression Forum 7
C When you just feel overwhelmed by it all Depression Forum 14
S To the people on here who make me feel pathetic. Depression Forum 48
J Theres so much and I feel alone Depression Forum 8
ILikePancakes I feel so sad :( Depression Forum 3
G Does Anyone Else Feel Like This.. Depression Forum 9
A I want to be alone, just do not want to feel lonely. Depression Forum 5
N Just want to feel something Depression Forum 6
7 I feel like nothing is worth living anymore Depression Forum 14
L I feel like wanting anyone to love me would be such a burden to them Depression Forum 5
Signofthetimes Do you feel sorry for things constantly? Depression Forum 17
P I Feel Like I Don't Have Almost None Happiness Hormones Left In Me Depression Forum 12
F Anybody else just feel like they're existing? Depression Forum 12
L I feel completely lost and panicking! Depression Forum 2
B I feel like I would be better off dead Depression Forum 11
Fairy Lucretia i feel a bit left out x Depression Forum 16
L does anyone feel they are going through the day like floating soul? Depression Forum 31
S Everyone makes me feel worthless, especially mom. Maybe I am. Depression Forum 12
Fairy Lucretia i don't feel well Depression Forum 9
S I Feel Like A Ghost Depression Forum 8
O I cant feel anything and i cant tell anyone. Depression Forum 47
H A feel like im lossing my life away. Depression Forum 6
Hardknocks88 feel like doing nothing. Depression Forum 5
S No one has ever loved me in a way that made me feel loved Depression Forum 10
S I think I am rotting inside. I am contemplating calling my psychiatrist, but feel like it's pointless Depression Forum 4
Blooming I feel rather depressed today. Depression Forum 5
K I feel like I'm lost in life Depression Forum 12
L I feel like im stuck Depression Forum 12
CenotaphGirl I want to have a baby..to the point I feel broken Depression Forum 15
A I feel like there s something seriously wrong with me Depression Forum 6
D Feel so depressed Depression Forum 2
apple2003 just got out hospital feel hopeless Depression Forum 1
A I feel disconnected with life Depression Forum 7

Similar threads

Top