- Nov 28, 2020
Hi all, I’m looking for advice to help with my situation and how best I can help my fiancé with his OCD. His main compulsions fall in the contamination category and specifically his main issue is blood. Every day after work he has to get completely undressed by the front door and then is showering for an hour a day (I have to wait in the bathroom with him to make sure he counts the times properly). If he sees even a spec of whatever under his nails the whole cleaning process starts again. He asks me so many times a day if he is bleeding or if there is blood on anything either in or out of the house. Any spec on loo roll / anything he assumes is blood (even if it’s not red) and the whole cleaning process starts again. We have had some family issues which have caused more stress recently and his OCD is at the worst it has been in 5 years and I want to help. But I don’t know what’s best, if I don’t help him with his compulsions he wouldn’t come in the house and would just sleep in his car to avoid the stress of it all. I’m finding it so hard as he is completely dependent on me and we have NO sense of normality. He can’t even make a cup of tea for the fear that the milk and kettle are “dirty”. I do all of the cleaning, all of the cooking, look after our two cats and work full time as well as dealing with his extra OCD needs. I am exhausted and can not see any light at the end of the tunnel. He has spoken to his doctor this s week and we are going to try medication and be on a list to receive CBT treatment but are there any tips that have worked for people in similar situations? Me completely cutting off helping him won’t work as he just won’t come in the house. Really appreciate help and support. Our relationship has severely suffered through this (I’ve been doing this for years). We are looking to get married in a couple of years and then want to start trying for children but I worry we will never have children as we can’t until we get a handle on his OCD which at the moment seems impossible.