- Dec 17, 2019
- London, ON
I agree - we don't need to confuse the issue.@Nukelavee
Im thinking, that if you and I start a debate, it might turn confusing to Badplace.
I have noticed that you and I do not fully agree about things in this subject.
But I think as long as we stick to giving him our support and our views, each on our own, instead of maybe ending up debating with each other, it might be easier for Badplace to pick the bits in each our posts, that he feels he can relate to and make his own choices.
I believe you make good points, while I also think, I make good points.
Lets keep doing that.
If we go borderline now and start a fight with each other, we will just take away focus from Badplace and his pain.
And while of course, lets be real, you and I are of course the center of the universe, cause what kind of BPD people would we be, if we did not act, as if we were, but we have to do better.
We both wish him well. But there is a child that also needs help out there.
Edit: I really try to do a quote of your post Nukelaave, but when ever I press quote, it wont add anything when I post my post.
His friend does need help, believe me, I hate saying he needs to get distance from her. I know how it feels to think people have abandoned you. And for it to really happen, for that matter.
I don't mean to see she's consciously trying to disrupt his marriage for her own good, but it's a defense mechanism.
Let's try this angle - Badplace, you need to understand you don't really understand the way she feels, teh intensity of it, and how that effects her self-control and treatment of others. She likely hates things are playing out like this, but has no idea how to handle it differently, and her emotions prevent her from doing anything differently.
Almost is right - us debating our views is only going to muddle things up. What we can do is give you some insight into aspects of what's happening. We see things differently enough that you may get more understanding because we help show the range of how BPD acts.
If that made sense.