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Kat667

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My husband cannot accept I'm bi-polar. He says it's normal ups and downs, that everyone has off days bad times and hates their job etc.
I have been same since I was a teenager and only just recently got diagnosed (at 35), which was a relief and distressing at same time.
He won't come to doc with me, thinks I should 'pull myself together' yet I feel like walking out into the night with nothing.
Has anyone else had same problem? If so, how do I get through to him?:confused:
 
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bluebell24

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Hi Kat,

I had the same problem, then a therapist loaned me a copy of this book:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d.html/ref=redir_mdp_mobile/275-2521802-4459405?a=1593856083

My husband soon realised I was serious and accepted what was wrong; also put an end to being told to 'snap out if it' and he's become a good support!

I hope you find a way to get through to him, I know how hard it is, especially when you're on the receiving end of unhelpful suggestions.

Let me know how you get on.

Bluebell x
 
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I don't have a partner - so I can't give you advice there. Has your partner seen you high? If so - what does he put that down to? I know that once my family saw me high - they knew I was Bipolar or at least that there was something seriously wrong. My whole personality changed and was very evident.
Jacqui x
 
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Hi, thanks for messages. I'll look up that book and see if it may help. One of my colleagues noticed because his ex-wife was bi-polar, he goes out of his way to be nice (bless him) and he probably has had more shit in his life than i have ever had to deal with.
My husband just thinks I am difficult, childish and hard to get on with. He has seen me on a high and thought I was organised to the point of organising wedding in one month, a bit talkative and shouldn't drink cos it made me hyper, oh, and I like to dance when I;m hyper, doesn't go down well.

My family know I'm on a high when I make grand schemes and then can't remember what I've said two months or more later.. I did an HND in photography and was convinced I could open a studio in a vacant shop. OK if you have money etc to put into it I had no money and two kids under 5. No way was it ever going to happen, I left my parents' house in a fury when they challenged me. Feel embarrassed now!
 
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