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How to keep hope alive?

DistantOcean

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I have been depressed for over 2,5 years now. I have tried psychotherapy, TMS and am now getting ready for my 5th medication switch. Nothing really seems to help. How do you guys keep pushing forward in life? I feel like I should come to terms with just feeling depressed the rest of my life, or at least a great portion of it, but I don't think I will ever be ready to to do this
 
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I don't know. I can kind of relate. I get really depressed with not wanting to go on. I just come up with a To Do list and talk to people who I find encouraging. Is there anyone you know in real life who just changes your perspective?
 
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Well, I don't think people can change my mood. But Inge, my writing teacher does inspire me to become a better writer. She always gives well-balanced constructive feedback and clearly has mastered the English language despite her Dutch roots. Something I admire.

Is there someone who changes your perspective?
 
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I have been depressed for over 2,5 years now. I have tried psychotherapy, TMS and am now getting ready for my 5th medication switch. Nothing really seems to help. How do you guys keep pushing forward in life? I feel like I should come to terms with just feeling depressed the rest of my life, or at least a great portion of it, but I don't think I will ever be ready to to do this
For me, the moment I actually just stopped planning for ”when I get better” had me getting to a better place already.
Acceptance and a day by day mentality sort of.
 
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Talking to my dad helps make my perspective more hopeful. He always has so many possible ideas for the future where I felt there was no hope.
 
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Well, I don't think people can change my mood. But Inge, my writing teacher does inspire me to become a better writer. She always gives well-balanced constructive feedback and clearly has mastered the English language despite her Dutch roots. Something I admire.

Is there someone who changes your perspective?
Talking to my dad helps make my perspective more hopeful. He always has so many possible ideas for the future where I felt there was no hope.
 
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It feels like groundhogs day every single day doesn’t it?
 
DistantOcean

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For me, the moment I actually just stopped planning for ”when I get better” had me getting to a better place already.
Acceptance and a day by day mentality sort of.
Yea, I also try to take every moment as it is
 
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I have been depressed for over 2,5 years now. I have tried psychotherapy, TMS and am now getting ready for my 5th medication switch. Nothing really seems to help. How do you guys keep pushing forward in life? I feel like I should come to terms with just feeling depressed the rest of my life, or at least a great portion of it, but I don't think I will ever be ready to to do this
 
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i am new but i can tell you i feel the same way, i had to go onto social security disability and lost my good paying full time job due to not being able to return to work after a three month leave of absence. i feel depressed every day, but i have to keep going. what is the alternative? i cant just end it all. have you tried gratitude for the things that are good in your life? i do an alphabet gratitide list from a to z of one thing for each letter. it seems to help. hang in there in the fight you can do it! Mert
 
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I have been depressed for over 2,5 years now. I have tried psychotherapy, TMS and am now getting ready for my 5th medication switch. Nothing really seems to help. How do you guys keep pushing forward in life? I feel like I should come to terms with just feeling depressed the rest of my life, or at least a great portion of it, but I don't think I will ever be ready to to do this
I've been struggling the same thing! I was just about to post a thread about this.. Maybe I'm not the right person to reply this because honestly like I said I'm still struggling too.. But reading your post made me want to let you know that you're not alone in this and i really hope that eventually we both can get through this... As if for me, what kept me going is actually my friends and family. I don't have the heart to give up and make my friends and family sad or get depressed as well because of me... That's the only reason and if I don't have that honestly I really dont know... But like I say, you're not alone. Sending lots of hugs!
 
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i am new but i can tell you i feel the same way, i had to go onto social security disability and lost my good paying full time job due to not being able to return to work after a three month leave of absence. i feel depressed every day, but i have to keep going. what is the alternative? i cant just end it all. have you tried gratitude for the things that are good in your life? i do an alphabet gratitide list from a to z of one thing for each letter. it seems to help. hang in there in the fight you can do it! Mert
This is interesting. But what if I can't find the word for each alphabet? Like what if there's really nothing to be grateful for?
 
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