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Clucky111
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Hello,
I was wondering if anyone knew what I can do to help someone (my father) who I very aggressive and paranoid? To the extent where when told someone is going to sort something out, he thinks they are getting someone to kill him (he takes things too literally too).
He is insulin dependant and is pretending to not be taking his medicine (we know he is though). If you say something totally innocent to him, he will twist it to mean something completely different. He throws tantrums like a child and expects everyone to be perfect (as in only Cambridge or Oxford is good enough kind of thing) - as he seems to think he is.
Today, he asked me to apologise for something (god knows what) so I could have the car keys back - which he had hidden...when I did apologise (as I needed to go out urgently because my nephew is ill) - he got angry again saying how I'm only nice when I want something.
Also, I didn't cash a cheque yet which is money that's been claimed back for expences..but was for some reason in my name, not his, he accused me of theft...which is ridiculous!
He likes to play mind games with you (for example he once allowed us to walk the wrong direction when we were abroad despite knowing the correct way and then played games until we worked it out) but when we got back to the family we were staying with, he was totally "normal" again. He routinely calls my mum "stupid" and me and my sister "silly girl" - which makes me think he is obsessed with intelligence somehow - if this makes sense??
He acts like the perfect person in public, but behind closed doors he is a nightmare and will take anything out on the closest person (which is what I think happened today as he'd just come home from something this usually happens with). I can't live like this anymore! He routinely ruins Christmas and Birthdays (anyone's but his) and he is ridiculously selfish and hypocritical. I'm sick of creeping around him all the time - he even threw a fit when my mum bought the new car he had chosen himself (even though she wanted another one, but chose this one to keep the peace).
I don't know what to do with him, it's very worrying. His eldest daughter says that he was violent towards her mother when they were married - apparently he once pushed her down the stairs. He also apparently sent letters and made threatening calls. He has a history of being violent...and he scares me. But what can I do for him as he does not recognise that there's something wrong with him???
I was wondering if anyone knew what I can do to help someone (my father) who I very aggressive and paranoid? To the extent where when told someone is going to sort something out, he thinks they are getting someone to kill him (he takes things too literally too).
He is insulin dependant and is pretending to not be taking his medicine (we know he is though). If you say something totally innocent to him, he will twist it to mean something completely different. He throws tantrums like a child and expects everyone to be perfect (as in only Cambridge or Oxford is good enough kind of thing) - as he seems to think he is.
Today, he asked me to apologise for something (god knows what) so I could have the car keys back - which he had hidden...when I did apologise (as I needed to go out urgently because my nephew is ill) - he got angry again saying how I'm only nice when I want something.
Also, I didn't cash a cheque yet which is money that's been claimed back for expences..but was for some reason in my name, not his, he accused me of theft...which is ridiculous!
He likes to play mind games with you (for example he once allowed us to walk the wrong direction when we were abroad despite knowing the correct way and then played games until we worked it out) but when we got back to the family we were staying with, he was totally "normal" again. He routinely calls my mum "stupid" and me and my sister "silly girl" - which makes me think he is obsessed with intelligence somehow - if this makes sense??
He acts like the perfect person in public, but behind closed doors he is a nightmare and will take anything out on the closest person (which is what I think happened today as he'd just come home from something this usually happens with). I can't live like this anymore! He routinely ruins Christmas and Birthdays (anyone's but his) and he is ridiculously selfish and hypocritical. I'm sick of creeping around him all the time - he even threw a fit when my mum bought the new car he had chosen himself (even though she wanted another one, but chose this one to keep the peace).
I don't know what to do with him, it's very worrying. His eldest daughter says that he was violent towards her mother when they were married - apparently he once pushed her down the stairs. He also apparently sent letters and made threatening calls. He has a history of being violent...and he scares me. But what can I do for him as he does not recognise that there's something wrong with him???