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How to help my partner with (existential) OCD?

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saturniansoul

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Hello!
My partner just told me he has existential ocd/reassurance ocd and contamination ocd, i've gone through several podcasts and articles about this but I wonder if anyone else also deals with the same problem? and what would they require from their partner? Like is there something I can do to support him? (ofc this differs from person to person, I asked him what I can do to help and he said "just be yourself :)" but I feel unequipped! especially when his compulsions come up, theyre kind of like "I need to come up with a plan to figure out why this happened" or "I need to wash my hands". ) What are some affirmations I could say to calm him down when this happens? What would be some do's and don'ts? This is such a vague and a silly question but I just want to let him know he has someone who understands!

I'm thinking about what gifts to give him for chrismtas now, and i wanted to make a diy scratch card just for fun, but now I'm wondering whether that could trigger him because the scratch card can make a mess! Am I freaking out over this? I feel like I'm going over the top but I want to be extremely mindful thats all :(
 
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I think the best person to ask would be him. I don't have OCD so i'm sorry i cannot help, but i agree that you should be yourself.

With my illness, i do like acknowledgement occasionally, when i seem unwell to someone else, but also i need to live a normal life and forget about it for long periods of time. I know it is there, but i want to have a normal life and normal conversations about normal things.

I would let him tell you when a line has been crossed that he cannot cope with.

Presents you could also ask his family for suggestions.
 
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I think the best person to ask would be him. I don't have OCD so i'm sorry i cannot help, but i agree that you should be yourself.

With my illness, i do like acknowledgement occasionally, when i seem unwell to someone else, but also i need to live a normal life and forget about it for long periods of time. I know it is there, but i want to have a normal life and normal conversations about normal things.

I would let him tell you when a line has been crossed that he cannot cope with.

Presents you could also ask his family for suggestions.
Ah okay okay, perfect, thank you so much for responding to this :) appreciate you!
 
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