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How to help ex-girlfriend through depression?

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tkaran

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Girl Friend Broke up with me 2 weeks ago because she has low self-esteem issues possibly some depression. She says she can’t be in a relationship right now since she doesn’t her love itself. She messaged me a week stating she doesn’t want to lean on me and doesn’t want me to be walking on thin ice all the time. (That why she broke up)That it sucks to lose her boyfriend but even more to lose her best friend too. And that she happy to be with me and talk with me. But when she is alone she is sad and cries all the time. she told me to move on but says you're the best thing to happen to her. I'm confused. She went see a therapist last week. we have had no contact since.
I want to be there for her. But I don’t know what to do. She doesn’t want a boyfriend and I don’t wanna move on. I can’t leave someone alone like that and at the same time don’t want to be stuck in limbo. If you know what I mean. she needs support.
Or should I just check up on her once in a while ( like email)? Or just let her do her thing. I was going to see send her a birthday card.
 
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i think you should keep in touch as her motives for leaving you seem to be her problems not actual real problems with the relationship. Maybe reassure her that you love her warts and all. If she still doesn't want to be with you, then re evaluate the situation. It is possible she was trying to let you down gently I suppose. But based on what you said that doesn't seem to be the case.
 
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All indications point to the relationship was fine. we got along great. I am 28 and she is 22 fyi.
we never really fought. only over some stuff, i say sometimes.
The only thing that bothers me is that she said she didn't want to date for a year and doesn't want me to find her after. but that could taht be emotions at the time. cuz the message the next week had only positive things to say. and says that im amzing guy, hurts to do this.
And the other thing is that brought me a birthday present and never gave it to.
she said shipping was taking longer than expected. she and my cousins are good friends.
thanks for your help
 
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