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How to get my life back?

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missunknown

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I'm in probably the worst state I've ever been in. I graduated high school kinda recently. Ever since then my anxiety has worsened. I'm at the point where I don't really leave the house. When I do go out, it's a process of trying to "look presentable". Only to lead me feeling gross and regretting being out.
Then there's also my low self esteem. I feel very gross about how I look. I know people have flaws but I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. I'm trying to fix some of the stuff. I'm also trying to reassure that im okay, though it's not working. I'm also very insecure how I act too. I feel like I'm too awkward and stupid. Basically to sum it up, I don't like myself.

I realize though that I'm getting older so I'm trying to help myself. I am applying for jobs so I can have money. The problem is all of what I'm struggling with. Its hard to be alone with myself, not to mention in public.
I tell my friends about my insecurities and they tell me how great I am. Blah blah all that, and it helps for a minute, that's it. My family is too preoccupied with their stuff. Or they just don't understand and assume I can get over it. I tried chatrooms/forums for help, but noone responds. I'm so frustrated with everything, that I've contemplated self harm.

I'm so so sorry for the rant, I just need help. I'm wondering how can I get my life back. I want to be a confident, normal, happy person. I guess I'm asking, how can I be confident? If I fake confidence, will I get it? How do I actually get rid of my anxiety? How do I like myself?
Any tips/advice/encouragement, anything at all is appreciated. It'd also would be great to hear success stories from people lile me.
 
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Fancyharm

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Hi Missunknown

It is interesting that you talk about faking confidence etc, I have used re-wiring of the amygdala and it has been a huge help to me. It takes time, but it works. I think your comment about faking means you are suggesting a form of re-wiring to yourself, which is good. Why don't you look up re-wiring and the amygdala. I also find that making handwritten notes in a notebook helps as it is a good way of refreshing what you have learned.

Also use the forum to communicate with people, the forum has helped me a lot.
 
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missunknown

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Hi Fancyharm,

Yeah, that's true. What I have is basically like bad habits, so I should try to fake it. Or develop good habits/rewiring like you said.
I'll look up rewiring and the amygdala. :)

And okay, that's also a good idea! Thanks for the suggestions. I'll be sure to talk to others. Thanks for reading my post in general.
 
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