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How to get a girlfriend

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samthefootball

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Im 25, Im single, How do I get a girlfriend. I am running out of time. My stepsiblings have people they love. I don't what the fucking hell can i do
 
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What do I do!!!
 
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It's not like there's some magic trick to it, I'd say the most common way a relationship comes to be is between people that already know each other, but if you're talking about meeting someone from zero then this is what comes to mind:

1. Make sure you are at least a somewhat presentable human being, meaning you have a job and/or are currently studying, you are decently well groomed, you don't have a particularly obnoxious or repelling personality and very importantly do not show how desperate you seem to be.

2. Put yourself into social situations where women are present, what kind depends on what would be available in your area I guess, even better if those situations are related to some interest or hobby of yours.

3. Just try talking to them I suppose? but don't be pushy, desperate or creepy about it. If they're obviously no interested in being approached then stop right there. Also, because a woman may be friendly and talk to you for 15 minutes that in no way means she's interested in anything else beyond that. Just take it easy.

4. Ask them about themselves to get a conversation going and try to be as genuinely interested as possible but also actually participate in the conversation. A man who doesn't listen is repelling, one that has nothing to say is boring.

5. Be patient, keep trying and hope for the best that somehow one of these strangers eventually becomes an acquaintance, from there a friend and then maybe a girlfriend.

And I'm sorry if any of this comes out as condescending, but you are asking how to get a girlfriend on an web forum, so I have to assume your knowledge must be kind of lacking in that area.
 
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[FONT=&quot]The following statements aren't an how-to on getting into a relationship, this is more of a general advice.
Understand yourself, sexually and emotionally before you enter a relationship: you need to know what you want in order to communicate it to a girl.
If you want a relationship for growing as a person you need to understand that you need to work on your growth and not the one of your girlfriend. Don't be the sole provider of affection, respect, smart conversations and so on, be sure it's all reciprocal. That's how relationships turn good.
If you want only a sexual relationship don't just have sex and expect to have intimacy in your relationship. If that's what you want to do, ok, but don't expect your partner to be there when you're in trouble.
[FONT=&quot]Perhaps having a girfriend was something you wanted to try but have been afraid to do so. Now is the time to try. Good luck.[/FONT][/FONT]
 
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samthefootball

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Thanks for the good advice
 
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