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How to feel safe at home?

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Charliedragonfly

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Hi, my parent's house is full of really horrible memories from my childhood that leave me feeling like it's unsafe to stay here and like I'm going to be hurt. There is currently no way to move out because it would cause me to really struggle financially no matter what help I could get. I'm looking for advice on how to feel safe at home? I have this constant anxiety that has even caused me to try to run away. I know I'm not in danger but my brain doesn't. Is there anything I could do or tell myself to lessen these feelings of being trapped, threatened and vulnerable? Thank you
 
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Hi,
I'm sorry this happened to you, have you had any therapy or meds?
Take care
 
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Charliedragonfly

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Hi,
I'm sorry this happened to you, have you had any therapy or meds?
Take care
Hi, yes I've just started therapy and I've expressed that I'm open to the idea of meds. We haven't covered this topic yet because I don't feel ready to talk about it with her.
 
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Hi,
It's good your having therapy, I still sleep with my light on at night it helps me feel more secure.
Hope your recovery goes well for you.
Hugs
 
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I sleep with my light on too. I also have a comfort object that I sleep with and I play soft calming music to stop me being hyper aware and alert to sounds.

Grounding objects also help me remember that I’m safe. Things like curling up in a soft blanket, smelling lavender, anything really that wasn’t there during the abuse to reconnect with the here and now
 
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Charliedragonfly

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Thank you all. I currently have some of my boyfriend's items to sleep with, which really helps me feel safer. I used to sleep with a nightlight but I've weened myself off of that because it interferes with my quality of sleep (which is still awful because I have recurring bad dreams... last night I woke up 3 times). I use lots of diffusers to help calm me down as well. Maybe I should experiment with using lava lamps or something.
 
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I have a sleep app that i use , its the sound of rain and it does help relax you
 
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Charliedragonfly

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I have a sleep app that i use , its the sound of rain and it does help relax you
I have an alarm clock that does the same thing :) Thank you aha
 
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