How long does it last?

MotherLion

MotherLion

Member
Joined
Jul 29, 2018
Messages
16
Location
UK
#1
Almost from day one I felt as though I may be struggling with my baby and feeling very depressed a lot of the time. I put this down to the circumstances surrounding my pregnancy and the fact that I'm doing pretty much everything as a single parent. But now my son is a year and a half and I still feel the same. Is it normal to have postnatal for this long? Thoughts please? :unsure:
 
Sophie

Sophie

Well-known member
Joined
Feb 20, 2009
Messages
3,168
Location
Spain
#3
Hi MotherLion. My second baby was born 10 weeks early, he only weighed 2pound 14. I was told that the next 72 hours were cruical, my body went into shock. Seeing this tiny baby with tubes and wires on him while he was in an incubater was heart breaking. After a week in hospital I had to go home without him. I went to the hospital every day and phoned the hospital twice a day. I remember I was feeding him, I just started crying, I felt hopless and a failure. I seemed to close into myself and didnt want to talk in case I cried. My baby came home after 10 weeks, I hate to say this, but it was a nightmare. He screamed and cried all the time, I maybe sleept for 2 hours a day. By then my depression had kick in big time, but the terrible thing was I didnt have any feelings for him, I did all that a mum should do. My health visiter was amazing. I finally went to my doctor and told him how I was feeling, he gave me antidepressants, I was on these for over 3 years. Once my little boy stopped screaming and crying, and was sleeping right, this is when i started to pick up until I didnt need medication. I was a tough time and I was also working evenings.
Every person is differnt, I can only tell you about myself. It must be hard being a single parent. I would surggest that you had a talk with your doctor and accept any help you can get.
I hope that I have been helpfull xx
 
Anon_21

Anon_21

Well-known member
Joined
Feb 24, 2018
Messages
1,644
Location
US
#4
My daughter is 3 now and I'm still overwhelmed. I stopped taking my antidepressant in order to get pregnant and felt great during the pregnancy, but afterward was a tailspin back down. I probably made it a year before I got back on the antidepressant and that helped immensely.

I thought by the time she was 2 1/2 I would be safe enough to come off, but I've been struggling these last few months without the med. Not with persistent depression so much but with the overwhelming feeling of being responsible for another life and doing most of the caretaking on my own.

I had thought the "baby" stage would pass too, but 18 months is still very much dependent on you, and with tough circumstances you are not unreasonable to feel down. You could speak to a doc about managing it. Sometimes it takes med to kick you out of it. You can message me if you need to talk more. Best of luck to you.