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How does someone with SAD have a stable relationship or friendship as i find this so hard !

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I find I can't have relationships with anyone but really want to-how do others cope?
 
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I don't have schizoaffective disorder but rather bipolar. I went on a long term therapy and learned all kinds of coping mechanisms which I still use today. Getting myself under some level of control helped me immensely. I think feeling confident that you are not your diagnosis but a human being who happens to have this problem is the way to go. But that is where therapy comes in, you ask for tips to cope better so that the problems don't interfere with getting to know people. Does any of that make sense? I'm rambling a bit
 
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Idk what symptoms of SAD you suffer from, but i think everyone with a mental illness finds relationships hard because when it comes down to it people without them just cant understand and can get easily spooked. A good thing to do is meet people online. Let them get to know real you first and you can let them in slowly and give them the picture of your illness at your own pace. Hopefully you can find a person whos understanding and supportive. Coping with loneliness is hard. Im battaling myself right now.
 
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I don't have schizoaffective disorder but rather bipolar. I went on a long term therapy and learned all kinds of coping mechanisms which I still use today. Getting myself under some level of control helped me immensely. I think feeling confident that you are not your diagnosis but a human being who happens to have this problem is the way to go. But that is where therapy comes in, you ask for tips to cope better so that the problems don't interfere with getting to know people. Does any of that make sense? I'm rambling a bit
Yes thank you I will talk to my doctor regarding therapy. Thank you very much.
 
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Hey froggie, my diagnosis used to be schizoaffective disorder but now it’s just schizophrenia with an unhealthy dose of depression. I have a pretty stable relationship with my wife who I sometimes refer to as my anchor.
 
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I find that we tend to isolate ourselves which is a coping mechanism. Bringing control to the chaos. I have a partner but beyond that no friends to speak of. I also have very little contact with my family. I think normal people find it difficult to cope with us as well. What makes it worse is I suffer from General Anxiety Disorder as well which complicates things as well. So don't feel alone in this.
 
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