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How do you get someone to stop being your favourite person?

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Bunnie_mother

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So months ago my church made my favourite person (who also goes to my church) block me on social media to try to stop me from being so attached to him. I'm really suffering and haven't felt happiness since. All I want to do is to talk to him. I miss him soooo much and I'm really suffering with a horrible, empty depressed feeling.

Is there any way to make him not be my favourite person anymore so I can get rid of this suffering?

Thanks :)
 
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Wanttofeelpeace5

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Hi . Welcome to the forum . I'm sure there are people on here that will have great suggestions .. just a heads up that there is a lot more people (more knowledge) online around 6 to 10 pm UK time . Sending hugs your way .
 
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Nukelavee

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So months ago my church made my favourite person (who also goes to my church) block me on social media to try to stop me from being so attached to him. I'm really suffering and haven't felt happiness since. All I want to do is to talk to him. I miss him soooo much and I'm really suffering with a horrible, empty depressed feeling.

Is there any way to make him not be my favourite person anymore so I can get rid of this suffering?

Thanks :)
Time, and distraction. In my experience.

I know how you feel. for me, what works is having something to do or concentrate on during the periods of the day I usually was with my FP, or talking to them. Once you break that habit, and they aren't always on your mind, it begins to fade faster.
 
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Ihavecontrolofthebeast

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Distraction is key. Get yourself engrossed in something. Persevere with your feelings and they will start to subside noticeably in about 3 weeks x
 
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WhySoSerious

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I think the main strategy here is to give yourself additional "non FP" activities and people so that you don't have to rely solely on the FP. The more legs you have under your table top the more likely you can cope if one gets wobbly and falls off!
 
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Bunnie_mother

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Thanks everyone! :) I think I would struggle less if it wasn't for lockdown and stuff. I feel like not having uni to focus on during this time has been really bad for me as I have nothing to occupy my brain with and all I can think of is him and what happened. :(
 
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WhySoSerious

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That makes complete sense especially at the moment. Just remember not to slip into logical/reasonable mind at the expense of feeling emotions.
 
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Is hard. I changed my confident by a dude. I damaged her too much.
 
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