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How do you distract yourself from worrying

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missme

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Hi. Just over the last day, I have been a little worried about my son that lives in another city from me. His relationship has broken and I've helped him find somewhere else to live. But I can't stop thinking about him. Not in an obsessive way, but out of genuine concern. How do you distract yourself from worrying. I pray and it goes away, but then it comes back again
 
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Hi missme, I am in the same situation with my daughter. I have to remind myself that we cannot protect our children from the pitfalls of life. Sometimes they are going to get hurt and go through some rough and tumble - like the rest of us. Its in our nature to protect them but when they grow up we have to let them work things through themselves. Scary for us....but healthy for them. x
 
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missme

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Your words are very consoling thanks so much and I agree with you completely
 
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It's just I tried to contact my son yesterday and I've heard nothing from him. I think he may be just needs some space
 
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Hiya, worrying is natural about your kids, you love them and don't want any harm coming to them, if it starts to make you ill then your over worrying and that's an issue, tell your son you're worried about him and listen to what he says, re-assure him you're there for him and things will improve. Best of luck ok
 
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missme

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Thanks so much. Yes I don't think I'm at the over worrying stage thank goodness. But I think there is a certain amount of letting go that parents have to do when it comes to older children that have left home. We all have been through relationship break ups and difficult times in our lives, I have told him we will help him and told him we are there for him. I just think I need to hand it over and trust that he will contact me when he is ready. Thanks for your reply it does mean allot to me
 
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