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i am hearing voices constently the meds aren't working !!!!

telling me i should kill myself how do people cope with hearing voices all the time its killing me. i get a litttle rest from it from time to time and music helps through earphones.
I'm on sulpiride (low dose) as well as risperidone but i think the plan is to stop risperidone and increase the sulpiride. I've already tried amisulpiride, quetiapine, aripiprizole.

just wondered if anyone had any advice or coping stategies???:scared:
 
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Hope, support, coping skills...

Amy,
Remember that what you're feeling is only temporary; there is always hope.
You need support, understanding and someone to speak to about the voices also.
Music, hobbies, engaging with others with similar experiences, being around people, sound of many kinds, tv, video games, excercise, reading, music, praying, talk therapy, focusing beyond the voices, give your attention to something you enjoy; don't take the voices seriously or personally.
It is scary, but you will get through it alright with or without meds...
Here is one link and I hope this helps somewhat....see it below.
You will learn to listen to your own strong inner voice and to turn down the other voices.
It's not easy, but in time you'll find different ways to deal with these voices.
Your voice is the only voice to believe.
I hope others will post some of their coping methods...
Take care of yourself and ask for help and support from someone Amy....
The link: http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/showthread.php?t=10750
Take care of yourself and believe in yourself Amy...
 
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softwhisper

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Hello Amy...
Life as you know... to a ‘voice’ hearer...
Can be...
A torment...
You are doing...things already...to cope cherish...
Listening to music...
Being creative...
Perhaps...
By art...
Craft...
Or...
Maybe...a walk...
Now...i know...for...myself...
Walking...doesn’t appeal...to me...
Because...
Sometimes my OCD...doesn’t...permit...
Even venturing over the door...
So i try to occupy my mind...with other things...
I talk ...to myself...
And...
Somehow...i have learned...
That...
Higher self...
Seems...to be talking to me...
I will maybe say....
“maybe i will get the paints out”... and... in return...
I somehow automatically say...”yes that is a good idea”...
To my learning’s...
My coping mechanism...
That is a higher existence helping me...
Put order...
To my thought pattern...
Anything other than positive...
Is ‘voice’...of...negative fields...
I have learned...to ignore...
They take the hint eventually...
Higher self is always positive...
If...you answer back...to your self...
Talk ...of...first thought...
With a lesser cause...
Of positive...
Then you are adhering to ‘voice’...
Of disadvantage...
I do...also say...
Not all ‘voice’...is bad...
It is wonderful...to be...
For me...
With positive ‘voice’
They nurture...
They give love...
To learn...to stay with those...
Is...good for me...
I might say ...
“a nice cuppa sounds nice”...
And...then...follow with...”gosh...what a good idea”...
Im sure all...if...only they would admit...
To it...talk...to themselves...
And...
Will laugh...with a follow up...”i always get a good reply”...
To me...
That...is...
Inner self...
Talking to higher self...
Our connection to oneness...
Call this what you prefer...
Probably...
You have learned...
‘voice’...
Seems...
To be more active...
When we are not...
Therefore...
To keep mind...
On daily pursuits...
Of a positive manner...
Is a good ...alternative...to me...
NOW...
I do stress...cherish...
It is not all...
Achievable...
As life around us...
Is not always...to...the positive...
I try to remove...myself now...
From situations...
Of...
Less to the positive...
I do not like picking up...
‘voice’...
Of...
Their situations...
Sometimes if in a crowded...room...
And they are differing in opinion...
I go to the toot...(wee house...toilet)...
And...
Come back when the air is more...to...a better...
If...
Not...
I have learned to say...
“ooo...need to go...forgot I had to pick something up”...or whatever...
I have learned over my 53years...to do this...
Not always have been able to...as...was...very shy...and...inward before...
NOW...
Also...
We can not always be doing things...
Or burn out...
That is where the medical profession are needed...
To slow the thought pattern down...
Im a great believer...
That...
Pills don’t work mysteriously by themselves...
But sometimes still have a need for them...
As...
I would be racing about with ...
A paint brush out of my ear...and...a broom up my b.....balirie...
To talk...
To someone...
Who understands...
Without patronising....
Is a great achievement...
Combined with....herbal remedies...or...your doctors prescription...
And...
Taking care...
Of...
Introducing...
Some kindness...to yourself...
Hobbies ect...
Interaction with...others...if...that’s... something... you like to do...
Therefore...
Likes...of...what...you prefer...
To learn these things...when you are younger...
Makes...your growth...a wonder...
Some talk to ...their ‘voices’...
I do all...of...the time...
As i hear...24 hours...of...the day...
But...
Choose...which...ones...
Negative...
Trying...to persuade me to do...such...
I have learned...over the years...to say...
Nothing...
As sometimes...
Makes them worse...
I have left those...
To my connection....of...my part...of...higher existence...
To deal with...
I asked there for help...
And...
Life for me... i stress...Amy... for me...
Is to a better quality...
‘voice’ hearing...to me...is a gift...
But...
I do remind self...
Sometimes...
This gift...
Is very over powering...
I take myself for a little lay down at times...
And...
Wake to as i have said...
A better movement ...of...energy...
Higher existence...to ...my knowledge...
Does this...
I do hope...this gives...you a little light...cherish...
I do say to you also...
I nearly died...twice...
When i was very young...
With overdoses...
Im so glad...
That...
It didn’t happen...
Life with ‘voice’ can be so inspirational...
If ...we clear...the air to it....
May sound...not achievable to you...
Precious...
At this moment...
But...
To rid...self...of...negative self talk...
That to me...is hearing...’voice’...
You are a sparkle...
A joy...to rekindle...
We learn my feeling...
If we light...our sparkle...of...a lost cause...
To become our empowered tool...of...love...
love in my light...to...yours...
softwhisper...:)
 
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thanks for the replies!
I too have taken several overdoses (in past 5 years), moments of weakness i guess when it all became too much, the depresion along with the voices telling me to kill myself, i gave in.....lucky i was found...ended in a&e several times then transfered to psychiatric hospital.

My voices are pretty much constent at the moment its hard to cope with but i am taking on board what everyone is suggesting to me...its just harder to actually do than talk about doing it.:unsure:
 
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it is very difficult i try and ignore my voices but i am aware how diffivcult that can be as there so constant at times it,s horrible i,ve found meds have helped me a bit but not took it all away just try occupy ur mind with other things that might help
 
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Hello Amy...
be kind to yourself...
your worth...
is important...
we can all...
say this is...how it is...for me...
and...
this book...
says do this...
then...
we become bomdarded...
with information...
coupled with 'voice'...
can be very ...
distructful...
to your own intuition...
you have worth...
and...
to go with the flow...
of...
what i...
or others say...
is wonderful...
but it all boils down to you...
cherish...
and...
how the information leaves you...
try to relax with life to your 'voice'...
and...
i feel sure it will...
relax to you...
be kind to yourself...
you are a special...
first thought...
of...
your own...
after listening to others...
is the way to work for you...
we are all unique...
if you get lost with too many ways in how to achieve first thought...
then relax again to the first thought ...
and it will return...
first thought is never negative...
it can feel that to some 'voice' hearers..
as quickly 'voice' can take hold...
of...
first thought...
and...
put theres...
when you realise...
this then life becomes a betterment to achievement...
love in the light of my first though to yours...
softwhisper...
 
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The funniest piece of garbawge I read was when someone said look beyond the voices... You wouldn't understand what that poor girl is going through unless you heard voices yourself, especially negative ones. They abuse her mind (I've experienced it) they can make her see whatever they want her to see, say whatever they want her to hear, they can actually control the words coming out of her mouth, the gestures, when she uses the bathroom, when she sleeps, her breathing, anything that gets affected by the medication ( I took repiridone too hunny). Get as fucking far away from that ish as you can, it's ur best bet. You most likely are already isolated, it sounds like you have a voice who thinks their a badass and reigns terror over you, when your at home you have to find a way to move around. Start simple, take long walks, stretch, dance, listen to alot of music, but try your hardest to mouth the words. Any sort of physical stimulation helps defeat the experience. Soon it will start to snowball and you will have to strike while the iron's hot. Yo I wish you the best babe, and so does my positive voice, and your not alone my faggot ass negative voice tried to make me kill myself with a 9 inch blade in the shower last summer, but with every next day he loses control so it's all good. Message me if you need anything else, cuz I got yo back dawg ;)
 
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how can i carry on living with this voice at my side all the time?
i feel i want to end everything, i need peace i want to die i feel quite calm when i think of death just scared of whats left behind so i am trapped until i sort that out. i only came out of hospital less than 2 weeks ago i am no better just told them what they wanted to hear so i could leave convinced them i wasnt going to harm myslef which was y i was put in there in first place for my own safety.
at the moment i am calmly organising everything in my life so that it will be easiser for those i leave behind. i think we all need peace i've given everyione in my life too much grief.
voices are overp[owering too much to bear anymore. thank you for your resposes i am grateful.
 
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Here is My Advice

I find that hearing voices ends in one of three behaviours over long periods of time. One, You want to harm others, Two, You want to Harm Yourself, Three, You Cannot take Care of YOurself.

I think the best strategies are to fight against wanting to harm others, wanting to harm yourself, and not being able to take care of yourself.

Also, Stop Thinking About it, so they cannot prey on the thinking of your person, find distractions etc. Everytime you think the idea, they say the idea, so stop thinking the idea. Make it not possible. Hearing voices is a battle, do not become a causualty, make certain "they don't get what they want" no matter what... They love that... Try Loving your enemy, etc.. but do not accept vulnerabilities... turn negatives into positives, etc, avoid negative thinking with them, it is basic self-defence... and stand up for yourself... you fight voices, nothing is more important than changing their bad judgement. Save the world...

Also, if you are not vulnerable to actually harming yourself, try totally lying to them. Say, ya, I'll Do it, but never do so, hang it over on them... Get them back with make believe... Build delays into their head, Say one thing and do another, etc... Emotionally get at them... Hate the voices, not yourself, etc. Don't encourage them to do the same, they might, they are important people, Find a leverage game to play with them, tell them to explain the purpose of the talking, or argue to get their boss, kick them out, fire them, say their boss probably has a bad vibe about their work, etc... Play Games, not War...

or seek a qualified medical opinion,

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yeah it all makes sense i a m just too weak, i don;t feel scared of dieing i actually want to, i feel calmer thinking that this is all going to end. yes the voices are telling me to kill myself but i am also thinking it in my own head too, i feel so depressed i can't sleep anymore i can't think of anything else.

u r right i do want to harm myself and yes i am probably not looking after myself correctly either.....perfetic exsistence.:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(
 
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Got to go to bed and try and sleep somehow i feel so wide awake at night time though. c what crap tomorrow has to offer
 
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i am hearing voices constently
I have experience of this too, for four years, non-stop.

the meds aren't working !!!!
I discovered very quickly that meds didn't work. The last time I took prescription anti-psychotics was in 2002. To be frank, I didn't expect the meds to work, because I had an inkling what was causing the voices, and there was no mechanism whereby meds could jam the mechanism by which I surmised that the voices were being delivered to me.

I had a family who didn't want me on meds. If you haven't got that support, and would like advocacy, either to persuade your family, or your doctor, to defend your right not to take meds that don't work, please PM me.

telling me i should kill myself
I imagine that you probably agree that it's not true that you "should" kill yourself, but that suicide is one of those things, like murder, lying and stealing, that you shouldn't do.

What does this tell you? That your voices are telling you something that you know isn't true, and therefore . . . the voices are not expressing your thoughts, values, ideas, beliefs and personality; they must therefore be expressing the thoughts, values, ideas, beliefs abd personality of . . . well, of whom? . . . of somebody else, that's who!

So, you have to fight the voices, to reject them, to ignore them, and to get on with your life, as if they weren't there. True?

how do people cope with hearing voices all the time
I practised rejecting the voices, and ignoring them, and praying to God to fight against those who were fighting against me.

its killing me.
It is absoluely horrible, I agree, but it's not literally killing you, is it? Sometimes I used to think that murder was kinder than inficting voices on somebody, mind you. :)

just wondered if anyone had any advice or coping Stategies???
Absolutely, yes. "I can do all things through Christ that strengtheneth me." How much do you know about Jesus?

Jesus is the answer to fear too.
 
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Amy cherish...
perhaps...
sweetness...
it is time to go back to the doctor...
if...
we can not take care...
of...
ourself...
then...
we need to seek help...
speaking from long time experience...
no one...
knows...
what goes on behind a closed door...
if...
you dont tell truths...
that is a hard one too... cherish...
but remember...
doctors... are paid...
to take an outside look at what goes on for you...
you are the seeker...
of...
help...
and...
doctors...
are the salvation...
when all seems to be out of control...
to your safety...
i have argued with doctors...
medications...
lots and lots...
of times...
but...
if it were not for them...
then...
who knows...
we cant see light at the end of the tunnel...
cherish...
when it is clouded over...
'voice'...
as others...
say...
myself...also...
eat into negativity...
your probably not a negative person...amy...
but...
when...
you hear over and over again...
negative responses to what ever you do...
then somehow...
depending...on personalities...
we become... it...
im ...
very gullible...
so 'voice'...
has a field day with me at times...
but...
im not a one for swearing...
but do find myself...
telling them to....B----- off...
at times...
and...
follow up with...
whose...life is this...?
know you are in my thoughts cherish...
and...
please feel free to talk...to me... if you like...
much love to you in my light...
giving a little light to your dimness...
try to find that little sparkle...
inside...
that is connected...
to the higher...
ignition...
there sweety you will find the courage...
to say...
all is not right for me at this moment...
and...
i need help...
 
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thanks maybe i should seek help then? am i ill? i don't know anymore whats wrong, so much going on in my head just want someone to take it all away from me.
 
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Hello amy...

when we wish...
that life...
is better...
not...
then...
i feel...
we need...
a human contact...
to talk to...
someone...
that...
understands...
sleep depravation...
and...
what...
'voice'...
can do to us...
if...
of a negative field to us...
much loves to you sweety...
softwhisper
 
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