- Feb 17, 2021
As a teenager, I had a best friend who I was really close to - we did everything together and I always assumed we'd be friends forever. When I was 18, I went away to uni and she cut me out completely with no warning or explanation. I was absolutely devastated and couldn't understand how she could do that to me. Since then, I've really struggled with making really close friends - I have a lot of friends but I'm not very good at getting close as I worry that the same thing will happen. If I do start getting close to a friend and then they don't reply to a message or call one time, I get really upset by it. I start to obsess over what I could have done wrong and think that they'll never contact me again. The only way I can maintain friendships is for them not to be too close but then I feel lonely because I don't have anyone to talk to. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with something like this?