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SunshineWoody
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Hello,
I'm kind of at my wits end here (actually several light years beyond) and need advice.
Back in October, the woman I am "with" (and have been "with" for 7 years) and I made some fundamental discoveries between ourselves. Basically, we really didn't have the relationship we thought we had - we are not emotionally close, there is no physical (or other) intimacy, no intellectual connection.
Before we broke it off, tho, something horrible happened: she came down with pneumonia. Long story short, we have been in hospitals for about three months now, and it has become VERY apparent why our relationship is broken. When other families have loved ones in the hospital, they visit as much as they can but go back home. She demands that I be at her beck and call 24/7, everything she needs I must do. This (not having clean clothes, etc) has caused health problems for me which I won't go into.
It now looks like she'll be on a ventilator for a long time, if not the rest of her life.... but I can't continue going on being her servant and slave. If we had real love, I would without a doubt... and I've lasted this long only because I am a "nice guy" and don't like seeing people in predicaments.
Her family is well known for melodrama. If I wanted to be a prick I would serve her with eviction papers (the house is in my name only). I am thinking about quitting my job, loading the dogs in the car (my dogs at least), and just letting the bank take the house and what happens happens. I need a 'good' way out of this though.
Sorry if I sound like an azz. I'm sure if others would walk in my shoes they'd feel the same way. I've spent 30 years of my life just giving and giving and giving to people and I'd like to be able to give to myself for a change.
I'm kind of at my wits end here (actually several light years beyond) and need advice.
Back in October, the woman I am "with" (and have been "with" for 7 years) and I made some fundamental discoveries between ourselves. Basically, we really didn't have the relationship we thought we had - we are not emotionally close, there is no physical (or other) intimacy, no intellectual connection.
Before we broke it off, tho, something horrible happened: she came down with pneumonia. Long story short, we have been in hospitals for about three months now, and it has become VERY apparent why our relationship is broken. When other families have loved ones in the hospital, they visit as much as they can but go back home. She demands that I be at her beck and call 24/7, everything she needs I must do. This (not having clean clothes, etc) has caused health problems for me which I won't go into.
It now looks like she'll be on a ventilator for a long time, if not the rest of her life.... but I can't continue going on being her servant and slave. If we had real love, I would without a doubt... and I've lasted this long only because I am a "nice guy" and don't like seeing people in predicaments.
Her family is well known for melodrama. If I wanted to be a prick I would serve her with eviction papers (the house is in my name only). I am thinking about quitting my job, loading the dogs in the car (my dogs at least), and just letting the bank take the house and what happens happens. I need a 'good' way out of this though.
Sorry if I sound like an azz. I'm sure if others would walk in my shoes they'd feel the same way. I've spent 30 years of my life just giving and giving and giving to people and I'd like to be able to give to myself for a change.