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How do I grow my hair out long if I have helmet head (for men)?

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Hydrophobia

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So, I have many problems with my hair due to my genes. My hair is very thick, frizzy, dry, rough, tough, and wavy. The only good thing about my hair is that I’m not growing any bald spots and according to a lady who once cut my hair, I won’t be getting them anytime soon either. I can’t grow bangs hardly, much less grow out the back and sides. I’ve tried growing it out, but it always accumulates in width rather than length, and it wasn’t up until recently until I found out the right cut + shampoos/conditioners to use for it. As for the last part, I’ve tried just about everything, and they either had very little, if any effect on my hair. I’ve tried those 2 in 1 shampoos + conditioners (like Suave), head and shoulders, volumizing shampoo (definitely not what I need for my type of hair), I think certain types of moisturizing shampoo/conditioner, and countless others (even body wash). However, until I was about 18, after I got this certain haircut, I discovered what was right for my type of hair all along. It was L’Oreal Paris Elvive Total Repair 5 Repairing Shampoo and Conditioner (it came in a round, flat bottle with a flat yellow/golden top). Never has my hair ever been so silky, soft, straight and smooth until I used those two. There was also this other type of conditioner I used around that same time that was for “color protection,” but it came in these round bright red bottles with a round top that you push in on one side and it come out through a hole on the other. I don’t remember the exact name of it. I remembered it because even though it made my hair soft and smooth, it also gave my hair this reddish tint underneath the sunlight.

Since I’ve found the right shampoos/conditioners, how do I grow out my bangs, sides and back until I grow my hair long? I want it to be straight, silky, soft, and smooth. However, I probably shouldn’t use a straightening/curling iron, since I already have dry, rough and damaged hair to begin with, and I’ve seen what happened to my mom’s hair after years of doing that and it’s all burned out now. It’ll ruin my hair if I burn it with an iron. Probably shouldn’t use those thick, hard combs that hurt like hell too, because that’ll tear out clumps, so I should instead use those thin combs gently. Although I have dyed my hair once (I removed the dye, it was permanent. I got rid of it because it looked ridiculous. I have dark brown hair, but this dye was reddish orange when I was trying to get it blonde, so I used that Vitamin C and Head and Shoulders stuff to get rid of it back in 2015), I shouldn’t do it ever again, since repeated hair dyeing can cause hair loss and is very harmful for your hair. I would just keep it the same color it is now.

Any advice on how I could go about doing this? Like, how I should grow it, how long I should wait, how often I should shampoo/condition it, certain ways I should grow it first, etc.?

As for the bathing part, sometimes if my hair looks good, I won’t wash my hair, because if I do and when I come out of the bath/shower it’ll look flat, dry, frizzy and just shit. So my hair has to be right in order for me to go anywhere and it to look good. Sometimes I hear people say that you shouldn’t regularly wash your hair if you want to grow it out longer, because your hair needs the oils in it to grow, but I’ve noticed that for me personally, not bathing it can sometimes just make it rougher and worse, so I would have to use something. So, I’ll probably regularly wash it with the L’Oreal Paris Shampoo + Conditioner to keep it as straight, soft and silky as I can and blow dry it after I get out the shower so that it won’t look like crap after I leave.
 
Luci

Luci

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My son has the same problem with his hair. I just found the right products for him and take him for regular trims to keep the condition healthy then it grows no prob. The barber uses thinning scissors throughout his hair too to get rid of the 'wide' look you describe. Regular trims are the best to encourage healthy hair growth
 
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sadpunchingbag

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i have really thick hair to the point the barber electric shaver stops working i was always told to ask them to thin it out whatever that means
 
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