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How Do I Deal with This Situatiion with my Little Cousin??? Please Help

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How Do I Deal with This Situatiion with my Little Cousin??? Please Help

I have been On Anti Depressents for Ocd,Anxiety,Depression for years, im on 60 mg Of Ciatropram at the moment and i feel after reading, reading and reading about OCPD It to me is like describing.......Me.

Would this situation in my life describe anything to do with OCPD???

In a nutshell, I have an 18 yr old little cousin and to me she is like my little sister(Im an only child) and i have known well..since she was born really.


Last Dec, She would have been sitting in the house doing pretty much nothing,I got her out the house, asked her to the pub,Introduced her to my friends with thinking well if im not in the pub and she goes there she will have people to talk to, im not ashamed to admit this i deal with depression and anxiety,ocd and im on anti depressents and i drink. End of dec i suffered a HUGE paranoid/anxiety attack thinking she had fell out with me,she hadnt but was trying to get in contact to see what was"wrong" So through the year a few times i thought she had fell out with but it again was my paranoia and each time i saw her i aplogised to her for being like that and she would never reply to my txts,stop replying to me on a social networking site but everytime i saw her up town id be like"we cool?"etc& she said yes& if i was annoying she would tell me,again no reply to my txts,online msg's,she tells me things are ok but then goes and ignores me and and when she said she would add me to her friends list on a social networking site, she turns round and declines my request, to me i feel she been lying a lot to me and very 2faced ,Any Idea WHY she is being this way?? i know she has been lying to me and 2faced.

& if i was annoying she would tell me,again no reply to my txts,online msg's,she tells me things are ok but then goes and ignores me and and when she said she would add me to her friends list on a social networking site, she turns round and declines my request, to me i feel she been lying a lot to me and very 2faced ,Any Idea WHY she is being this way?? i know she has been lying to me and 2faced. Of Course iam Hurt and angry and In The Pub on Saturday I was standing at the jukeboxwith my friend, isaw her and her friend enter, i shot her a ****** off look, 5 mins later my friend and i go to our seats and drinks, within seconds she has drank her drink quickly, storms out the pub with her friend walking behind her then hours later i was in another bar with Mates and i had my back turned and my little cuz obs saw me and walked past me with a real pissed off look on her face....I mean i have said to severeal friends in the bar that look out for her if she gets into trouble and help her and they said they would as she is my cuz and would call me..Iam Hurt and confused why she is being like this.


All Thoughts Welcome.
 
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She's 18 you say? It could be that she has a lot to learn about sensitivity to family members, I know some relatives this age and slightly older who lack the ability to empathise and who generally aren't very mature. It could be that this is part of the problem.

Of course, I don't know her or you personally but it sounds like you may be worrying too much, paranoid episodes are not easy to deal with and I am sorry you suffer from a condition where these are regular for you. I have a family member who also has some similar problems to this and they take their toll.

I don't want to advise something to you that ends up doing more harm than good so take what I say with a grain of salt and wait for someone much older than myself [I am only in my 20s] to give more sound, sage advice.

With that in mind, I might suggest either giving her space or tactfully asking another family member who knows your cousin well if there is a problem she has with you. Maybe even asking your cousin if you could have a word but again, some tact would be required. If you told her how you feel and explain these paranoid episodes to her [if she doesn't already understand], that could help he see what she mightn't have seen before.

Again, try waiting for someone else to give you better advice than me, I am still very young and do not have the benefit of as many years of experience with mental health issues as the more seasoned folk among us.

Good luck. :)
 
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Did you ever have a word with your cousin?
 
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