How do I cope with being alone?

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MrStanton

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For the past couple months I have been trying to cope with severe loneliness. I live by myself and barely speak to anyone at work. It is too much. I have especially been struggling at work I do the cleaning at a spa. I can't connect with anyone because I talk to everyone in passing and don't have any opportunities for conversation. Its especially painful because my supervisor has been somewhat supportive with what I deal with and even lent me money for rent one time when I didn't even ask him. Sometimes he is really friendly, but I brush him off all the time because I don't consider him a friend and don't want to be friends with my supervisor. Everyone's is really close, but I'm not close to anyone and I feel like nobody wants me there. I just would do anything for a close friend right now. The only time I see people is at work and I barely talk to anyone.
 
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Hi there and :welcome:to the forum :) Perhaps you should be a little less frosty with your Supervisor. It's in their interest to have a happy and conscientious team behind them, so join in (time permitting) and be part of it :) Please don't be afraid to pick our brains etc. we are all close friends here, and :welcome:once again :)
 
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Hi there and :welcome:to the forum :) Perhaps you should be a little less frosty with your Supervisor. It's in their interest to have a happy and conscientious team behind them, so join in (time permitting) and be part of it :) Please don't be afraid to pick our brains etc. we are all close friends here, and :welcome:once again :)
I try not to be so frosty, but I get sick of coming in everyday and not really trusting anyone or having any real friends.
 
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Trust etc. takes time, and the onus is on your Supervisor. Rome wasn't built in a day ;) How are you finding the forum :)
 
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Having coworkers who you can't talk to sucks because that's another 8 hours of deprived socializing. You can't always trust coworkers because they're all they're for the same reason no matter how friendly they are. I am slowly development a 'threshold' for loneliness but when it hits you its like you can't escape the feeling. I try to distract myself with video games and youtube but when the isolation feeling comes I can't enjoy anything and have sit through it untill I can enjoy whatever I am doing. Its like loneliness are ghe pedestrians at a crosswalk and I gotta sit through them walking across before I can enjoy driving again. I know its hard but the best thing for us is to sit through it and let it do its thing. Just take deep breathes. If you didn't like my hot take on it plz msg me.
 
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There's trust and then there's trust. Looking back at my working relationships there are some I would confide in and many I probably wouldn't... if in doubt always err on the side of caution :)
 
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Sorry if my post sounded stupid, its pure word vomit I was just trying to express how I *personally* deal with loneliness when it hits.
 
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I personally couldn't see anything wrong with it, in fact I found it interesting and useful :)
 
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For the past couple months I have been trying to cope with severe loneliness. I live by myself and barely speak to anyone at work. It is too much. I have especially been struggling at work I do the cleaning at a spa. I can't connect with anyone because I talk to everyone in passing and don't have any opportunities for conversation. Its especially painful because my supervisor has been somewhat supportive with what I deal with and even lent me money for rent one time when I didn't even ask him. Sometimes he is really friendly, but I brush him off all the time because I don't consider him a friend and don't want to be friends with my supervisor. Everyone's is really close, but I'm not close to anyone and I feel like nobody wants me there. I just would do anything for a close friend right now. The only time I see people is at work and I barely talk to
 
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keep busy set a bunch of goals be whatever then work every day to reach them people dont do much for me
 

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