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karmalady
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I am at my wits end over my friends OH.
In brief for well over a year now he has been talking about the CIA bugging him, the illumiati, people stealing his work off the internet etc etc. He was agitated all the time and would rant at you for hours on end. I tried to tell his partner that there was something wrong but met with a brick wall, it was as if she wouldnt acknowledge it so therefore it wasnt real.
This all culminated in a huge psychotic episode when he came to my house early one morning after the children had gone to school and was very aggresive and confrontational accused me of kidnapping him and was making all kinds of threats.
He shot off in his car and I rang his wife to tell her that he had flipped out and that as she was 7 months pregnant I thought she should come to my house as I was worried for her safety. All she asked me was 'what has he done' there was no surprise in her voice at all.
The culmination of this was that he returned to my house and we had to call the police as he was trying to get her into the car with him and screaming that I was controlling her mind etc etc.
He was sectioned under the mental health act and held for seven days but wasnt even seen by a consultant until 5 days in. His wife just dissolved during this time cried and said I cant cope with this, and so we all stepped in looked after the kids liased with the hospital went to vist him, we even tried to sort out getting him into the Priory.Unfortuntatly he had calmed down after 5 days ,and said whatever he had to to be released.
He was them signed off completely!
I kept trying to tell his wife that he still wasnt right, but she just wouldnt listen, she got quite nasty with me whilst still expecting me to carry on as though nothing had happened. He was still delusional and was telling me that he had healed himself, becoming obssesed with good and evil etc etc. In the end I just backed off but was really worried for them all.
6 weeks after the initial episode it happened again only much much worse, he was talking about taking her and the kids to a better place, that there was no such thing as good and evil we are all animals, that this world isnt real, to listen to the magic radio, and that the bunny that was on his shoulder explaining everything to him would come to her if only she would listen. He kept saying 'talk to the children they understand' and has since transpired that he has been spending hours talking to them and she didnt notice.
He went into hospital with the doctors so that he could explain to them about the fact that this world isnt real etc.
In the mean time his wife had to have an emergancy c section, and we are looking after all their other kids, looking after her in hospital and trying to sort out what was going on with her OH
He became more severe when the hospital (against his wife wishes) told him thet the baby had been born and was sectioned.
The problem that I have is that between all their friends we have a lot of children, and we know that when he gets out, just like last time they will want to pretend nothing happened - which I can understand - but in order to keep him distracted she wants him to spend time with everyone, but I dont feel that until he has a diagnosis and is medicated that I want him round my children.
That may sound harsh, but as their parent it is my duty to protect them and frankly someone who is talking about taking them to a better place is to much of a risk.
I tried last time to support them as much as I could, have their kids over all the time, the only thing that I wasnt comfortable with was him being round my kids, as I knew he wasnt right. Unfortunately they both became very abusive when he was on a 6 hour release and I refused to meet them with all the kids on the beach, and accused me of calling him a paedophile. We patched things up but I know that this time will be just the same. She will want to pretend that everything is normal when it isnt.
How can I make her see that I want to help in any way that I can, but at the same time I have the right to ensure that I dont put my kids into a situation where they could be at risk?
If it makes any difference my mum was an alcholic who died of liver failure 10 years ago and I was her primary carer, even though she was my mum and I adored her there were times when I did not allow any contact with my kids as I didnt want them to witness what she was like. It isnt that his condition frightens me, its just that I want to be able to protect the kids whilst helping them.
What can i do???
In brief for well over a year now he has been talking about the CIA bugging him, the illumiati, people stealing his work off the internet etc etc. He was agitated all the time and would rant at you for hours on end. I tried to tell his partner that there was something wrong but met with a brick wall, it was as if she wouldnt acknowledge it so therefore it wasnt real.
This all culminated in a huge psychotic episode when he came to my house early one morning after the children had gone to school and was very aggresive and confrontational accused me of kidnapping him and was making all kinds of threats.
He shot off in his car and I rang his wife to tell her that he had flipped out and that as she was 7 months pregnant I thought she should come to my house as I was worried for her safety. All she asked me was 'what has he done' there was no surprise in her voice at all.
The culmination of this was that he returned to my house and we had to call the police as he was trying to get her into the car with him and screaming that I was controlling her mind etc etc.
He was sectioned under the mental health act and held for seven days but wasnt even seen by a consultant until 5 days in. His wife just dissolved during this time cried and said I cant cope with this, and so we all stepped in looked after the kids liased with the hospital went to vist him, we even tried to sort out getting him into the Priory.Unfortuntatly he had calmed down after 5 days ,and said whatever he had to to be released.
He was them signed off completely!
I kept trying to tell his wife that he still wasnt right, but she just wouldnt listen, she got quite nasty with me whilst still expecting me to carry on as though nothing had happened. He was still delusional and was telling me that he had healed himself, becoming obssesed with good and evil etc etc. In the end I just backed off but was really worried for them all.
6 weeks after the initial episode it happened again only much much worse, he was talking about taking her and the kids to a better place, that there was no such thing as good and evil we are all animals, that this world isnt real, to listen to the magic radio, and that the bunny that was on his shoulder explaining everything to him would come to her if only she would listen. He kept saying 'talk to the children they understand' and has since transpired that he has been spending hours talking to them and she didnt notice.
He went into hospital with the doctors so that he could explain to them about the fact that this world isnt real etc.
In the mean time his wife had to have an emergancy c section, and we are looking after all their other kids, looking after her in hospital and trying to sort out what was going on with her OH
He became more severe when the hospital (against his wife wishes) told him thet the baby had been born and was sectioned.
The problem that I have is that between all their friends we have a lot of children, and we know that when he gets out, just like last time they will want to pretend nothing happened - which I can understand - but in order to keep him distracted she wants him to spend time with everyone, but I dont feel that until he has a diagnosis and is medicated that I want him round my children.
That may sound harsh, but as their parent it is my duty to protect them and frankly someone who is talking about taking them to a better place is to much of a risk.
I tried last time to support them as much as I could, have their kids over all the time, the only thing that I wasnt comfortable with was him being round my kids, as I knew he wasnt right. Unfortunately they both became very abusive when he was on a 6 hour release and I refused to meet them with all the kids on the beach, and accused me of calling him a paedophile. We patched things up but I know that this time will be just the same. She will want to pretend that everything is normal when it isnt.
How can I make her see that I want to help in any way that I can, but at the same time I have the right to ensure that I dont put my kids into a situation where they could be at risk?
If it makes any difference my mum was an alcholic who died of liver failure 10 years ago and I was her primary carer, even though she was my mum and I adored her there were times when I did not allow any contact with my kids as I didnt want them to witness what she was like. It isnt that his condition frightens me, its just that I want to be able to protect the kids whilst helping them.
What can i do???