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How can I help my friends with depression?

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78rach45

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I have a couple of friends who struggle with depression. I'm not really familiar with depression, but I have struggled with anxiety for years, so I can sort of relate. I want them to feel better, but I don't exactly know how to help.

If you have depression, what would you want to hear from your friends? What would be helpful for me to say? Anything helps.
 
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welcome ,when i am depressed i want to and need to be heard ,just having somebody say they are there for you and care can be enormously helpful
if you don't mind doing it offer to go to any medical appointments with them for their mental health ,i don't mean counselling
do nice things wit them but take care of yourself too ,you sound like a lovely friend ,they are lucky to have you xx
 
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Hello, it's really awesome of you to want to help your friends and you're putting the effort in to find out how to do it. I only have one person who knows how depressed I get, they mean well but they say things like "you don't have it that bad" or "you've got nothing to be depressed about" or "appreciate the things you have more". When I'm so low that I'm in a self loathing phase I know they're not wrong but I can't help feeling like an awful person, so it makes me feel ungrateful, selfish etc and the pressure to feel better for their sake gets unbearable, so I sink lower.
Kindness does wonders for me, seeing other people be kind to eachother without an ulterior motive or if someone does something for me purely because its a nice thing to do I feel like I must be worth something, even a tiny gesture with no expectations or pressure gives a spark of positivity and eventually I'm strong enough to want to pass it on, which makes me feel better again. Like breaking a negativity cycle.
Your friends might just appreciate knowing you're there for them, supporting what they need, being available without judgement if they want to open up.
Thank you for helping them x
 
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Well if your friends computer was down you would recommend a good IT person to fix it . Our minds work very much like a computer with programming which therapy helps to unlock the beliefs (programs) causing the depression .See if they are open to therapy ? Unfortunately there is still a stigma out there about therapy that if people seek it there is something very wrong with them . You might also recommend positive affirmations to overcome the negative energy of depression they work for me like Einstein proved " everything " is energy .
 
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For me just having people around me who are understanding and won’t put too many expectations on me is the best for me. If you want you can ask them if there is anything you can do to help make things better for them. A lot of times there really isn’t anything that you can do though this would differ from person to person. Just being a caring and understanding presence in their lives I’m sure is most appreciated and it seems that you are. xo, j
 
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