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submarine girl
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I didn't know whether to post this as you might think its a stupid issue maybe its just me being immature but basically Im female in my twenties and with the things that have happened in the past I don't know how Im supposed to have confidence. Im happy with my face but other people obviously don't see me as attractive so it makes me wonder if they see me in a different way than I see myself.
When I was 18 we were doing a topic in college, biology about evolution/natural selection and the lecturer did an activity where everyone in the class (27 of us) anonymously rated each others looks out of 10 and our scores were written on the board then added up at the end. He asked if anyone didn't want to take part but i felt stupid saying no. Big mistake because I got mostly 4's and the lowest average in the class for facial attraction I got 4.6 out of 10 the other girls seemes to get 7's and 8's.
I was even below the 40 odd year old male teacher lol. I was shocked because I didn't give anyone below a 6 and I was hesitant to give them that I felt really harsh. The thing is they were not silly kids they were very friendly and mature, i was one of the quiet unsociable ones. Im slim and have a toned body cause I keep myself fit it was just my face.
Anyway at 22 I met a guy online who i had similar interests in so we met up and went on a few dates. I didn't really fancy him though and couldn't see the potantial for a relationship so told him that I didn't think it would work. His first comment was 'geez I must be seriously ugly' and 'when I first met you I wasn't so sure but it was your personality that I thought was right so I compromised'
Then I found out he posted on a student forum saying that he met a girl (referring to me) and that he is worried about being ugly because the girl (meaning me) wasn't exactly the best looking and that now he is worried about not being able to get even an average looking girl. Its really immature I know but he is being honest I can tell by something he aid when we first met.
:/ Its just I see girls who don't fit the typical view of what is attractive and Im sure they don't get put down the way I have been. The thing is I think I look fine and you might say thats all that matters but really.. how am I supposed to have confidence in my looks after things like this? Or am I being soft? Would things like this affect you :/ It just feels like im destined to get my looks insulted lol he was the only bf Ive had.
I know people have way worse issues than this but I just wanted some advice on how you would deal with it because as stupid as I sound I feel as though i can't have confidence in my looks. Lots of women go on about how they look bad even though they are constantly told they look nice yet Im the opposite in a way. Im ok with how I look but am told I look bad lol.
When I was 18 we were doing a topic in college, biology about evolution/natural selection and the lecturer did an activity where everyone in the class (27 of us) anonymously rated each others looks out of 10 and our scores were written on the board then added up at the end. He asked if anyone didn't want to take part but i felt stupid saying no. Big mistake because I got mostly 4's and the lowest average in the class for facial attraction I got 4.6 out of 10 the other girls seemes to get 7's and 8's.
I was even below the 40 odd year old male teacher lol. I was shocked because I didn't give anyone below a 6 and I was hesitant to give them that I felt really harsh. The thing is they were not silly kids they were very friendly and mature, i was one of the quiet unsociable ones. Im slim and have a toned body cause I keep myself fit it was just my face.
Anyway at 22 I met a guy online who i had similar interests in so we met up and went on a few dates. I didn't really fancy him though and couldn't see the potantial for a relationship so told him that I didn't think it would work. His first comment was 'geez I must be seriously ugly' and 'when I first met you I wasn't so sure but it was your personality that I thought was right so I compromised'
Then I found out he posted on a student forum saying that he met a girl (referring to me) and that he is worried about being ugly because the girl (meaning me) wasn't exactly the best looking and that now he is worried about not being able to get even an average looking girl. Its really immature I know but he is being honest I can tell by something he aid when we first met.
:/ Its just I see girls who don't fit the typical view of what is attractive and Im sure they don't get put down the way I have been. The thing is I think I look fine and you might say thats all that matters but really.. how am I supposed to have confidence in my looks after things like this? Or am I being soft? Would things like this affect you :/ It just feels like im destined to get my looks insulted lol he was the only bf Ive had.
I know people have way worse issues than this but I just wanted some advice on how you would deal with it because as stupid as I sound I feel as though i can't have confidence in my looks. Lots of women go on about how they look bad even though they are constantly told they look nice yet Im the opposite in a way. Im ok with how I look but am told I look bad lol.