- Nov 11, 2020
- Charlotte, NC
I have been told that I’m too abrasive in social situations. I guess I use my aggressive words as a sort of metaphysical armor to keep from being too open and vulnerable, and thus avoid being hurt. However I wind up putting others on a defensive stance and they don’t want to engage with me socially and I wind up alone and hurt anyways. I use words like “What do you mean?” And “What exactly is going on?” in demanding tones, thus coming across as confrontational. I want to change this and yet, still hold on to a little bit of that “armor” to keep from feeling too exposed. What is the best way to soften my exterior but not be too vulnerable and risk too much?