How bad is your social anxiety?



Jun 8, 2019
Growing up as a twin, I never had to socialise when I was younger. I remember when I was younger I was even scared to use the toilet at night because I thought I would be told off. But it meant that as I've gotten older, I've just avoided new experiences and it's left me with a fear of talking to people... Add (possibly? Verging on?) Emotionally abusive parents to the mix and you've got yourself a daughter who constantly apologises for everything because everything she does is a mistake. If you want to talk to someone, you're making a mistake if you say hello and you're making a mistake if you don't. Social anxiety is the terror of being judged and doing something wrong, and when you remember that through their eyes your interaction with them means next to nothing, that only encourages thoughts like "you're so selfish thinking you're so important" to pop up. I can't answer the door for fear of not knowing what to say. People are so unpredictable. I need a script, lol.


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Jul 7, 2017
Charliedragonfly, I'm so sorry to hear your experiences with social anxiety. That sounds extreme but you really nailed the painting to the wall there. People have been so hard on us growing up that gradually over time everything we do feels wrong. This 'social disease' is brought on by years of being ostracized for who you are, being made fun of for being different or being bullied in general, as well as over critical people who cascade you with negativity about yourself and it makes matters worse when it comes from everybody because you then truly start to feel like you are wrong and everyones right.

Teachers, family, or even friends constantly telling you everything you do is wrong. People bullying you for the way you walk, look, dress, etc, over years can cause a lot of damage to a person's self image and damage their esteem of humanity.

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