How bad is your social anxiety?

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Someone with social anxiety ranges from shyness to painfully shy, to the point they have a mild phobia of interacting with people.

Someone with social anxiety is in my opinion at least 99% likely to have some trauma from past social instances. Trauma doesn't just come from wars, sicknesses, and physical hardship.

An anxious sufferer is extremely self conscious, is unhealthily aware of what others think of him/her. Obsesses of what other people think and if its bad enough, thinks everyone

If you have social anxiety, you're very likely to feel guilty every time you interact with someone because you can't tell if what you're doing is somehow offensive, even though you know you're trying your very best not to offend them.

Lastly, replying and interacting can be absolutely exhausting and render you drained. This is me down to a T
 
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That sounds so painful. I have been diagnosed with bipolar and have not had this. But I think that people with it are under estimated in the problems it causes. Have you quoted the above from somewhere?
 
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I’d disagree with the mild phobia of interacting with other people. It’s absolute terror for me. It can take me up to three hours to get out of the house. I have to take beta blockers to slow my heart rate down as it never goes below 100 and has been as high as 164. .And duloxitine to calm me, also lorazepam when I’m in the house and a visitor is coming. I have to force myself out of the house . I do volunteer work one morning a week and that took six months to pluck up courage to go to it . It has nothing at all to do with shyness
 
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That sounds so painful. I have been diagnosed with bipolar and have not had this. But I think that people with it are under estimated in the problems it causes. Have you quoted the above from somewhere?
Na just writing based on personal experience
 
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It's absolute terror for me and it's awful how people just think it's a small issue and we can just "get over it", also "everyone gets nervous doing new things, it'll get easier" Quotes from my own brother, who doesn't realise I'm still petrified every time I leave the house.
If I have to catch public transport, it's still just as terrifying, at the 50th time as it was at the first time. I hate how easily people dismiss social anxiety, or laugh it off, when it's completely unbearable to live with.
 
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I haven't been officially 'diagnosed' (have maybe been avoiding my GP...) but I definitely relate to the part about being excessively self concious and hyper aware of how others perceive me. I'm not sure where it comes from, I have never been bullied or teased about how I look and I'm actually quite happy with my appearance most of the time but at the same time I hate myself and all I can see are flaws. It's odd and hard to explain. But I feel in a way like I'm not worthy of peoples time if I don't look and act perfect. Even though I know no-one is perfect. I almost feel like I'm embarrassing both them and myself just by existing at times. I have to basically give myself a pep talk to leave the house and I'm so aware of myself and others when I'm out that it's so tiring.

So needless to say I avoid social situations to avoid feeling this way. I only see friends when it's absolutely necessary (to prove I'm not dead basically) and it's ruining my life. I'm in my 20's, I should be enjoying life and socialising and going out. Not sitting at home watching Friends for the millionth time.

This is a total ramble and poorly written, sorry.
 
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my anxiety has been improving over the years, but it's still quite bad, I'm painfully shy in situations I'm not familiar with still, I have no communication skills with strangers and I'll sometimes overthink to the point where I won't bother to go through with it which just makes it even worse

I do think that exposure therapy does help to some extent as its been good for me with many things, such as I used to have really bad travel anxiety when it came to trains, but now its my favourite form of travel

If you really don't try then you will remain stuck I think, I'm not undermining any other anxiety disorder, but I think social anxiety maybe one of the worst because you know..... people..
 
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All I can say is, "Thank God, I'm not alone in this apartment". I am so afraid of my story coming to an end in the next few weeks. I am fixated on bad things. Like seniors being scammed in the Just Hang Up show, my hatred of anybody who has more than I do, the predators in the Open Secret documentary film, and my disabling fear of any changes + my neighbors who all band together everyday while I am alone. I can't stop waiting for every other Thursday to obtain either Valium, Ambien, or Klonopin. My body has no more natural tranquilizing system from years of benzodiazepine use. So I'm in agony everyday until I swallow something. Then I'm just depressed from having nothing nice to focus on. I can't think of anything nice. Even as I sit here not moving anything except my index finger to type my body aches like I've been exercising and straining muscles for hours. This is what years of benzodiazepine use does to you. I feel out breath like I've been running around for a long time and I'm just sitting in bed. I'm not hyperventilating or even breathing fast but I feel out of breath like asthma. I don't have asthma. I just found out two weeks ago that a neighbor of mine from long ago lives in a building I used to stare at for hours next to a cemetery. I used to fixate on the building. Why?!! One more useless fixation. Why do I care that a former neighbor of mine now lives there?! Another useless fixation. Why can't I fixate on something nice?!
 
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And I believe that the director Bryan Singer is one of if not the most evil human being(s) on the plane. I feel that he should be in an Arctic prison in the the Canadian province of Nunavut for the rest of his natural life. 30 years. I can't get over the hatred I feel for him.
 
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I feel that Michelle Clunie should be forced to attend a rehabilitation program for procreating with him. There's something extremely wrong with her and as far as I'm concernedshe's almost irredeemable.
 
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Just think monks voluntarily live a life of simplicity and focus on spiritual aspects of life .ok this was imposed on you but why not take that path ,this world is all superficial anyway and doomed to fail .people with everything have everything to lose , you have had countless hours for introspection and are probably far ahead of most people.
 
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my SA starts when I not talk to people on the idiotic/spam/uninterested topics, but with them who I interested in or if it connected with my job
 
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When you said monks, you reminded me of this song. I've always loved it since I was 14.
 
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Someone with social anxiety ranges from shyness to painfully shy, to the point they have a mild phobia of interacting with people.

Someone with social anxiety is in my opinion at least 99% likely to have some trauma from past social instances. Trauma doesn't just come from wars, sicknesses, and physical hardship.

An anxious sufferer is extremely self conscious, is unhealthily aware of what others think of him/her. Obsesses of what other people think and if its bad enough, thinks everyone

If you have social anxiety, you're very likely to feel guilty every time you interact with someone because you can't tell if what you're doing is somehow offensive, even though you know you're trying your very best not to offend them.

Lastly, replying and interacting can be absolutely exhausting and render you drained. This is me down to a T
Same! Mine was so bad in my late teens and early 20s that I became agoraphobic and couldn’t leave the house. This led to smoking lots of weed in the house alone in my room, which led onto a psychotic illness where I had to be in an adolescent unit for 3 months. From here, I’d actually only just realised what was mental health problems. Now, it’s just mainly the SA and related problems. To say SA sucks is an understatement. It’s ruined my whole life and my self confidence. It’s made me view other people as potentially hostile and the world a scary place :cry:
 
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I'm always worried that I'll upset other people. I'm also so sensitive that I end up getting upset. I also deal with hirsutism and this causes me to feel even more anxious. This is why I hate going out in public.
 
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i just cant talk it was worse when i was a kid got better gradually up to 18/19 still had it just pushed through it like we all then complete nose dive from 19 to 24 now :sorry:
 
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My social anxiety is getting worse and worse
 

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