How bad is your social anxiety?

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Someone with social anxiety ranges from shyness to painfully shy, to the point they have a mild phobia of interacting with people.

Someone with social anxiety is in my opinion at least 99% likely to have some trauma from past social instances. Trauma doesn't just come from wars, sicknesses, and physical hardship.

An anxious sufferer is extremely self conscious, is unhealthily aware of what others think of him/her. Obsesses of what other people think and if its bad enough, thinks everyone

If you have social anxiety, you're very likely to feel guilty every time you interact with someone because you can't tell if what you're doing is somehow offensive, even though you know you're trying your very best not to offend them.

Lastly, replying and interacting can be absolutely exhausting and render you drained. This is me down to a T
 
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That sounds so painful. I have been diagnosed with bipolar and have not had this. But I think that people with it are under estimated in the problems it causes. Have you quoted the above from somewhere?
 
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I’d disagree with the mild phobia of interacting with other people. It’s absolute terror for me. It can take me up to three hours to get out of the house. I have to take beta blockers to slow my heart rate down as it never goes below 100 and has been as high as 164. .And duloxitine to calm me, also lorazepam when I’m in the house and a visitor is coming. I have to force myself out of the house . I do volunteer work one morning a week and that took six months to pluck up courage to go to it . It has nothing at all to do with shyness
 
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That sounds so painful. I have been diagnosed with bipolar and have not had this. But I think that people with it are under estimated in the problems it causes. Have you quoted the above from somewhere?
Na just writing based on personal experience
 
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It's absolute terror for me and it's awful how people just think it's a small issue and we can just "get over it", also "everyone gets nervous doing new things, it'll get easier" Quotes from my own brother, who doesn't realise I'm still petrified every time I leave the house.
If I have to catch public transport, it's still just as terrifying, at the 50th time as it was at the first time. I hate how easily people dismiss social anxiety, or laugh it off, when it's completely unbearable to live with.
 
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I haven't been officially 'diagnosed' (have maybe been avoiding my GP...) but I definitely relate to the part about being excessively self concious and hyper aware of how others perceive me. I'm not sure where it comes from, I have never been bullied or teased about how I look and I'm actually quite happy with my appearance most of the time but at the same time I hate myself and all I can see are flaws. It's odd and hard to explain. But I feel in a way like I'm not worthy of peoples time if I don't look and act perfect. Even though I know no-one is perfect. I almost feel like I'm embarrassing both them and myself just by existing at times. I have to basically give myself a pep talk to leave the house and I'm so aware of myself and others when I'm out that it's so tiring.

So needless to say I avoid social situations to avoid feeling this way. I only see friends when it's absolutely necessary (to prove I'm not dead basically) and it's ruining my life. I'm in my 20's, I should be enjoying life and socialising and going out. Not sitting at home watching Friends for the millionth time.

This is a total ramble and poorly written, sorry.
 
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my anxiety has been improving over the years, but it's still quite bad, I'm painfully shy in situations I'm not familiar with still, I have no communication skills with strangers and I'll sometimes overthink to the point where I won't bother to go through with it which just makes it even worse

I do think that exposure therapy does help to some extent as its been good for me with many things, such as I used to have really bad travel anxiety when it came to trains, but now its my favourite form of travel

If you really don't try then you will remain stuck I think, I'm not undermining any other anxiety disorder, but I think social anxiety maybe one of the worst because you know..... people..