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Horrible first therepy experience

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deykamol

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Recently I caved in to my fear of opening up, and went to the doctors. I cried to him for half an hour about how I feel. After hearing all this he told me he thought it sounded like BP and referred me to a specialist for assessment.
She was horrible.
Constantly looking out the window, checking her watch. Not to mention the fact that she was an hour late. She asked the most horrible questions and upon hearing my reply she responded, "Oh that's strange... Oh well yes that is weird." She then ushered me out so she could go home.
I felt horrible, like I'd been wasting her time.

Plus, my boyfriend (of only a month) I think is a hypochondriac, except diagnosing himself with mental illnesses instead. He's convinced he's BP, yet in the 6 years I've known him I've never once seen a notable mood swing at all. He thinks he's got all these disorders which he blatantly doesn't have, and it makes everything so hard for me... He's so open about the fact that he thinks he "has" them, I can't tell him I'm BP or he's going to think I'm copying him and get angry, he thinks I've got depression... It's like he thinks claiming BP makes him sound special, or good. He's always opening posting status updates on facebook and myspace about his "mood swings" when he's just the same... I told him about my appointment and all he could say was "Well I don't even have the courage to go to therapy." YOU DON'T NEED IT. I went because it was that or suicide, I had to force myself there...

Does anyone else have any really unsupportive friends, or a bad therapist ?
 
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Recently I caved in to my fear of opening up, and went to the doctors. I cried to him for half an hour about how I feel. After hearing all this he told me he thought it sounded like BP and referred me to a specialist for assessment.
She was horrible.
Constantly looking out the window, checking her watch. Not to mention the fact that she was an hour late. She asked the most horrible questions and upon hearing my reply she responded, "Oh that's strange... Oh well yes that is weird." She then ushered me out so she could go home.
I felt horrible, like I'd been wasting her time.

Plus, my boyfriend (of only a month) I think is a hypochondriac, except diagnosing himself with mental illnesses instead. He's convinced he's BP, yet in the 6 years I've known him I've never once seen a notable mood swing at all. He thinks he's got all these disorders which he blatantly doesn't have, and it makes everything so hard for me... He's so open about the fact that he thinks he "has" them, I can't tell him I'm BP or he's going to think I'm copying him and get angry, he thinks I've got depression... It's like he thinks claiming BP makes him sound special, or good. He's always opening posting status updates on facebook and myspace about his "mood swings" when he's just the same... I told him about my appointment and all he could say was "Well I don't even have the courage to go to therapy." YOU DON'T NEED IT. I went because it was that or suicide, I had to force myself there...

Does anyone else have any really unsupportive friends, or a bad therapist ?
That sounds like an absolutely awful therapy session. *hugs* I've had bad sessions with pdocs but none quite that bad.

Your friend really isn't being very supportive at all. Is there no one else you could turn to? Being a hyprocondreact is an illness in itself which might be what he has.

Take care

raven
 
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Watercolours

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You don’t say where you are, whether you are in the UK or not. Therapy is not easy... and it can take a while till you get comfortable with a certain therapist.

You say your doctor thinks you have BP, they ideally need to refer you to a psychiatrist as they can make a proper diagnosis. Are you taking any medication?
 
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I feel ur pain!

I've had about eight therapists in my life - some good, some bad. They didn't change the way I saw therapy though. I hated it, through and through.
It's different for everyone. Personally, therapy didn't agree with me one bit. And I went through about six years of psycho-nonsense and mental hospitals absolutely hating it. I hated telling people about my feelings, emotions, memories...and sometimes I couldn't even get them right myself.
But ONE therapist was helpful. One out of eight, not including nurses and doctors. He stuck with me, sent for tests that no one else thought of, sticked with me for years he did. After he figured out my condition, i could go about the process of getting better and living with my condition.
But as i said, therapy wasn't for me, and I had to figure my life out on my own. It's that way for some people. It's different for others.
Keep looking for someone who helps you thouroughly and is dedicated to helping you. Keep in mind that therapy can only help you part of the way. Most of the battle is your own to fight, but you can make it every step of the way.
 

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