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aisha23

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who else here struggled with overeating during christmas?

does anyone have any tips or tricks to get back to.. well, a normalish rooteen?

(my eating is all over the place at the moment!)

thanks
 
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Same aisha. Just bought 2 chihauhau's, so dog walking helps alot. But that's only advice I can give on this topic
 
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Same aisha. Just bought 2 chihauhau's, so dog walking helps alot. But that's only advice I can give on this topic

glad I'm not alone in this.

and enjoy the dogs!. they can be fun to have around
 
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definitely been into the food over Christmas
and gained some weight , not a huge amount
but enough to worry me

it wasnt just Christmas there was a family crisis as well
and some of my usual activities are not on in the holiday
and there is all the emotional stuff of Christmas
feeling bombarded with my own feelings
and my own family who I didnt even see

and then being offered so much food
at the party I went to, I just thought sod it

but I did feel unwell afterwards
and moved myself back into my healthy food
 
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I think family can be a good thing over Christmas, but also a bad thing. I usually go above and behond for my family. For example, getting personalised carved glass vases and the kids 4 presents each stack and tied with a pretty bow. But this year, I decided not to buy for anyone. Period
Last year nobody told me, we are only buying for the children. So adults excepted my gifts and then told me. So no more b-day or christmas presents at all anymore. On top of that I've fallen out with my parents, so I have just hubby and kids now.
This has took a toll on my health, as I feel guilty every day and struggled through christmas, feeling selfish and guilty.
I can say I've been put off food and lost weight, just not eating. Feeling down and depressed but my kids have eaten a whole lot, sat on computers, stuffing their faces!
 
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sorry its been like that for you Megan

my family is a nightmare too , even if I do love them
they lie to each other and pass the buck
and pretend things didnt happen you know

as for the food I was aware that its not really food
even the Christmas dinner
I remember someone from another culture taught me this once
that what we eat is not proper food
and I just see now what he meant

when its not Christmas I eat superfoods really
like seaweed and hummus
sprinkle seeds on things , wholemeal bread ,
black or red rice , make my own pesto,
tons of green leaves
and the odd treat here and there
but mostly the healthy stuff

and with the Christmas food I felt almost
like I was suffering from malnutrition
because of all the fat and sugar I guess
it doesnt have any minerals in it

:grouphug: 🕯
 
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Yes Zoe, I know once you go healthy and learn about nutrition, the unhealthy food just seems disgusting in a way. I think it's harder when you have teenagers that havent been taught this from being babies. They had healthy food but just became fussy over time. Now I have a 14yo girl that will eat anything and a 6ft stocky 13yo boy who wont.
So to cater to both I meet in the middle.
 
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n yeah that must be hard
I dont have children and I cant imagine
catering for people every day !
that happens with me once in a blue moon
I would not be well enough to do that

I had my nephew and his children round a couple of times
and the living room looked like a bomb had hit it
there was all cake rubbed into the carpet and stuff !
 
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True and I have Extreme OCD. My children and my husband do not. In fact my husband is somewhat a hoarder. So if I'm depressed and bed bound, in a matter of days the house is fucked!
Which makes anxiety even worse.
I can honestly say,I wouldn't have children if I knew how .much it takes to raise a child.

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n yeah that must be hard
I dont have children and I cant imagine
catering for people every day !
that happens with me once in a blue moon
I would not be well enough to do that

I had my nephew and his children round a couple of times
and the living room looked like a bomb had hit it
there was all cake rubbed into the carpet and stuff !

A catering party sounds like my worst nightmare.

I wouldn't do it. if someone asked me eesh, we want you to be the caterer, I'd turn round and say no.

can't deal with all the people
 
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I over-ate too, and that triggered purging so that wasn't good. Although most of what I ate was relatively healthy, it was the quantity I couldn't take. My appetite for a month before Xmas had been quite low, so eating more has actually made me ill I think. I'm not sure if it's the increase in general, or higher fibre from lots of fruit, or the purging, but my whole intestine has been tender and uncomfortable for days now.

To get back to routine I made more of a set plan for what to eat the next day, allow for a few extra bits, but reduce them each day until I was back to standard meals. Once I go back to work I know I'll reduce what I'm eating even more.
 
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Megan333

thats very brave of you to admit
I know these feelings are more common than people admit
that having children was more than they could handle
people are also shocked
that I dont regret not having mine

I can hardly cope with myself !

I hope you will find more time for yourself
as they grow older , they will leave maybe one day
and then you might enjoy them more

:grouphug: 🕯:love:
 
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True and I have Extreme OCD. My children and my husband do not. In fact my husband is somewhat a hoarder. So if I'm depressed and bed bound, in a matter of days the house is fucked!
Which makes anxiety even worse.
I can honestly say,I wouldn't have children if I knew how .much it takes to raise a child.

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My husband is also something of a hoarder, I told him yesterday that he's like a creeping plant. In the bedroom, areas that had been cleared are slowly filling up with his crap again. And my kids don't clear up after themselves most times.
Cooking for a family with picky kids or different diets has driven me pretty insane this year. I used to enjoy cooking, now I dread it and struggle to shop as well because I have no clue what to get. Their answer to what do you like, is I don't know. How does a 14yr old not know what they like to eat?!

They're driving me up the wall in general today. My son especially.
 
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Thankyou Zoe.
Yes it is quite common. Most people wont admit to it for fear of appearing as a bad mother.
I am an only child so I thought I would have 0 children or 2. Its cruel to have 1.

Teens having kids for "someone to love and love me" is the worst mistake to make.
Also if you dont have a big support network.
I could go on and on.
I'm with you Topcat, I too used to love cooking but it's just another chore nowadays. 20 minutes after dinner goes on table, I have a table to clean up and a sink full of pots.
To be a parent you have to be:
A cook
A cleaner
A hairdresser
A teacher
A counsellor
A cleaner
A organizer
Tech savvy
Support
Mediator
A planner
Entertainer
Among a whole host of other things!! The list is endless. This should be taught in schools and then maybe people wont be in such a rush.
 
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