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Hi everyone.
It's been two years since I lost my aesthetic attraction to women almost entirely (let's say 95%). My psychiatrist tells me that it will come back as it was before, I read testimonies, talked with people who said the same thing. I'm not really afraid that it won't come back like before, I almost don't test myself anymore (in two weeks, it must have happened twice on an actress I thought was beautiful, and no aesthetic attraction came back, I found her ugly :c). I do not have any physical anxiety anymore. I guess nothing comes back because I'm under some kind of pressure. If I understood correctly, it doesn't come back because I want it back as before so much.
My question are these: How do you get rid of that pressure? How do you take the pressure off? I want my life back, my life where I could spend days looking at girls and finding them pretty... I miss it so much.
 
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Hi everyone.
It's been two years since I lost my aesthetic attraction to women almost entirely (let's say 95%). My psychiatrist tells me that it will come back as it was before, I read testimonies, talked with people who said the same thing. I'm not really afraid that it won't come back like before, I almost don't test myself anymore (in two weeks, it must have happened twice on an actress I thought was beautiful, and no aesthetic attraction came back, I found her ugly :c). I do not have any physical anxiety anymore. I guess nothing comes back because I'm under some kind of pressure. If I understood correctly, it doesn't come back because I want it back as before so much.
My question are these: How do you get rid of that pressure? How do you take the pressure off? I want my life back, my life where I could spend days looking at girls and finding them pretty... I miss it so much.
Who is putting you under pressure? Get off your own back!!! Society is a total nonsense. Play by yoir own rules. Its your life, live it how you feel comfortable, not by what you were told
 
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I have difficulty expressing myself (I am not a native English speaker). When I talk about pressure, I'm talking about the pressure I put on myself by wanting so much that the attraction comes back (I miss it so much). I know I'm heterosexual. I've always liked girls, I've always found them pretty, I've always fantasized about them. Never in my life have I ever thought that a man was even just handsome... I don't care about society, I want to get my aesthetic attraction back for me, because I miss it, because not finding the girls I used to find gorgeous gorgeous anymore drives me crazy...
 
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Can someone help me please?
 
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Are you on medication?because that can have a serious effect on your libido, if so you need to discuss this with your p/doc and tell them how much its worrying you. Maybe a change of medication could help you
 
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I am under SSRIs but only since January 2020. I'm under the care of a psychiatrist only because the loss of attraction.
 
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Hi, I am new to this forum and joined up so I can communicate with people in my situation. I received a formal diagnosis from a doctor last year and have been on SSRI medication since March this year. I also suffer from HOCD (I’m a 29 y/o female) and believe me I know the hell these thoughts can reign on you. I am finding I am having a similar issue right now and my doctor did pre warn me about this prior to taking the medication. He said it will affect my libido and ability to climax and he was not lying. I find it very hard to get aroused and this just triggers my anxiety further. I don’t really know what advice to give, I just wanted to reach out and let you know it’s ‘normal’ and I’m in the same boat. Best of luck
 
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