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HOCD, loss of attraction

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LanceTresLoin

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Hi everyone.
It's been two years since I lost my aesthetic attraction to women almost entirely (let's say 95%). My psychiatrist tells me that it will come back as it was before, I read testimonies, talked with people who said the same thing. I'm not really afraid that it won't come back like before, I almost don't test myself anymore (in two weeks, it must have happened twice on an actress I thought was beautiful, and no aesthetic attraction came back, I found her ugly :c). I do not have any physical anxiety anymore. I guess nothing comes back because I'm under some kind of pressure. If I understood correctly, it doesn't come back because I want it back as before so much.
My question are these: How do you get rid of that pressure? How do you take the pressure off? I want my life back, my life where I could spend days looking at girls and finding them pretty... I miss it so much.
 
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Hi everyone.
It's been two years since I lost my aesthetic attraction to women almost entirely (let's say 95%). My psychiatrist tells me that it will come back as it was before, I read testimonies, talked with people who said the same thing. I'm not really afraid that it won't come back like before, I almost don't test myself anymore (in two weeks, it must have happened twice on an actress I thought was beautiful, and no aesthetic attraction came back, I found her ugly :c). I do not have any physical anxiety anymore. I guess nothing comes back because I'm under some kind of pressure. If I understood correctly, it doesn't come back because I want it back as before so much.
My question are these: How do you get rid of that pressure? How do you take the pressure off? I want my life back, my life where I could spend days looking at girls and finding them pretty... I miss it so much.
Who is putting you under pressure? Get off your own back!!! Society is a total nonsense. Play by yoir own rules. Its your life, live it how you feel comfortable, not by what you were told
 
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LanceTresLoin

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I have difficulty expressing myself (I am not a native English speaker). When I talk about pressure, I'm talking about the pressure I put on myself by wanting so much that the attraction comes back (I miss it so much). I know I'm heterosexual. I've always liked girls, I've always found them pretty, I've always fantasized about them. Never in my life have I ever thought that a man was even just handsome... I don't care about society, I want to get my aesthetic attraction back for me, because I miss it, because not finding the girls I used to find gorgeous gorgeous anymore drives me crazy...
 
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LanceTresLoin

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Can someone help me please?
 
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Are you on medication?because that can have a serious effect on your libido, if so you need to discuss this with your p/doc and tell them how much its worrying you. Maybe a change of medication could help you
 
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LanceTresLoin

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I am under SSRIs but only since January 2020. I'm under the care of a psychiatrist only because the loss of attraction.
 
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