HOCD and loss of attraction



New member
Feb 4, 2019

In advance, I am sorry if I made grammatical mistakes, I am French and very bad at speaking English.

Is it possible for OCD to temporarily make someone lose their aesthetic attraction to the opposite sex? That's what's been happening to me now for the last seven or eight months and it scares me a lot.

I was never diagnosed but I had a lot of symptoms that remind me of OCD (I never wanted to be with a man but a lot of intrusive thoughts/images, for a long time constant anxiety and rumination, checking behaviours, and other diverse and varied things).

I've pretty much managed to manage all this, it doesn't make me spike anymore, (it doesn't make me anxious anymore, I know it's OCD), but the loss of aesthetic attraction to women... I can't do it. I mean, I could say to myself, "Stop it is that OCD" for everything else, but for that, I can't do it. It's too much for me, it's eating me up from the inside, it's torture. I'm afraid my attraction won't come back or not entirely, I think about it every day, I look at pictures of girls every day. The more time goes by, the worse it gets. The girls I found attractive before all this are no longer attractive to me. And to make matters worse, the anxiety seems to be drying up (the feeling of a knot in the stomach is less and less there). As time goes by, I have less of a feeling it's OCD. It's horrible. I want my attraction to come back.

Will my attractions return entirely? How can I make them come back?
Is it OCD?


Well-known member
Nov 11, 2013
Bienvenue au forum... ne vous inquietez pas pour votre langue anglaise… c'est vachment superbe… (je suis desolee si mon francais n'est par parfait!)

Whether it is OCD or not is not for us to determine... you need an expert diagnosis. So have you been to see professional in France to ask lots of questions about your concerns? That would be our first recommendations. Girls vs. boys seems to be a complex issue these days compared to 20 years ago, so what you're attracted to may have changed over the years.

Getting clarity on your mental health issues, i.e. OCD or something else will probably help with the attraction issues, so you might want to get that investigated first.

Take care and let us know what you need from us here. Bonne chance...