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Does anyone else have high functioning depression?

It can feel kind of lonely, it’s not the same stereotypical image of depression, I can function in everyday life, I can get up when my alarm goes off, get dressed, eat a good breakfast, go to work, socialise with my colleagues, smile, laugh, look perfectly ‘normal’ (whatever that is 🤷🏻‍♀️) run my own small business, spend time with my family doing fun stuff, have a healthy lifestyle.

Maybe it’s more difficult to understand how someone can do all these things and still be depressed/suicidal. I know that’s part of the whole ‘stigma’ situation but sometimes it’s even hard for me to understand and I’m the one living with it.

I’ve felt like I’m less worthy of help because there’s other people out there who can’t even manage the basics to take care of themselves.

Then I see news stories of Chester Bennington, Robin Williams etc, and they’ve always used those photos of them looking really happy to make people see that you can look perfectly okay and have a really good life and still feel that pain so deep they took their own lives.

I don’t know, it just feels like an extra battle? Is that insensitive of me to say that? I apologise if it is, I don’t think I mean it the way it sounds.
 
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I'm similar. Doing much the same daily stuff as I did when not feeling depressed, just having more down feelings and tiredness. I don't have a job but I'm sure I could do one. And no one would notice anything about me that would indicate I'm depressed.

I don't think people notice others' anxiety much either unless it is severe. Our thoughts and feelings are very much our own personal little internal world. And we simply do not know what another person is experiencing unless they tell us, or if their behavior is dramatic enough, we might notice that.

I think almost everybody is preoccupied with themselves and the things they need to do to get through each day. It's remarkable how little attention we really pay to the people around us. So we generally have no clue about what they are going through. You could live in the same house and not know your family member or partner is struggling unless the communication is there.

People always smile for photos. It's just a picture. Tells you nothing about them or their lives other than they might be having a good time at the moment the picture was taken.
 
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I suppose I suffer from "high functioning depression". However, I see the term as just a category of depression. I still suffer from depression. Yes I function quite well and always have done right through my depression except when my depression hospitalised me for five weeks about 15 years ago when I was put on anti depressants. I have not taken meds for over 10 years. I have run my own small business for nearly 25 years, I keep regular sleeping hours and eat well etc. My socialising is perhaps impaired slightly. Also my small business does not make much money but I struggle on with it to keep a roof above my head. It also, I think, gives some focus to my life as I live alone and have no dependants.

So high functioning depression is just depression as far as I can see. It is still painful even though it is business as usual - more or less.
 
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I used to have high-functioning depression, likely ten or more years ago (I'm 61 now). That was when I had a job, but I'm now on Social Security disability. My depression then was probably moderate and I could function mostly well in my job and do all of the necessary things required of me in life. But my depression is now severe (I don't know exactly when it became severe), and I have trouble doing basic things, like getting up in the morning, taking a shower, making a meal to eat, performing math, remembering things, concentrating on things. Now I struggle with life.
 
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"Is that insensitive of me to say that?"

Doesnt sounds insensitive to me at all. If thats what u feel and how you experience then its ok.

I dont hace high function depression. I dont have it super bad , but either I feel good.
 
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I managed to hold down a job as assistant site manager at the head quarters of a large international bank for a facilities sub-contractor for years despite being very depressed and suffering the early onset of my Schizophrenia.
 
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I think a lot of people with mental illness are best with structure. I know i am. This helps me to function but if you took away the structure I'd probably regress very badly.
 
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Does anyone else have high functioning depression?

It can feel kind of lonely, it’s not the same stereotypical image of depression, I can function in everyday life, I can get up when my alarm goes off, get dressed, eat a good breakfast, go to work, socialise with my colleagues, smile, laugh, look perfectly ‘normal’ (whatever that is 🤷🏻‍♀️) run my own small business, spend time with my family doing fun stuff, have a healthy lifestyle.

Maybe it’s more difficult to understand how someone can do all these things and still be depressed/suicidal. I know that’s part of the whole ‘stigma’ situation but sometimes it’s even hard for me to understand and I’m the one living with it.

I’ve felt like I’m less worthy of help because there’s other people out there who can’t even manage the basics to take care of themselves.

Then I see news stories of Chester Bennington, Robin Williams etc, and they’ve always used those photos of them looking really happy to make people see that you can look perfectly okay and have a really good life and still feel that pain so deep they took their own lives.

I don’t know, it just feels like an extra battle? Is that insensitive of me to say that? I apologise if it is, I don’t think I mean it the way it sounds.
I’m pretty much the same way. I’m pretty high functioning even though I’m oftentimes depressed and anxious. I’m thankful that I’m high functioning but at the same time it makes me feel separated from my disorders and I feel guilty about it because I know some people with similar disorders have trouble even getting out of bed or taking a shower. I have went through periods where my episodes get so bad that I don’t function at all though. Probably two times a year I’ll get so bad that I can’t even go to work.
 
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I think the hardest part of high function depression is that all the muggles treat me like my problems aren't real. And I read about other people on this forum and I realize that people here have significant issues that I just can't relate too. So then I feel like I don't deserve help either.

I'm too far gone to be happy, and not bad enough for the mental health system to accept me.
 
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I think the hardest part of high function depression is that all the muggles treat me like my problems aren't real. And I read about other people on this forum and I realize that people here have significant issues that I just can't relate too. So then I feel like I don't deserve help either.

I'm too far gone to be happy, and not bad enough for the mental health system to accept me.
Lol the muggles comment made me smile.
 
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Does anyone else have high functioning depression?

It can feel kind of lonely, it’s not the same stereotypical image of depression, I can function in everyday life, I can get up when my alarm goes off, get dressed, eat a good breakfast, go to work, socialise with my colleagues, smile, laugh, look perfectly ‘normal’ (whatever that is 🤷🏻‍♀️) run my own small business, spend time with my family doing fun stuff, have a healthy lifestyle.

Maybe it’s more difficult to understand how someone can do all these things and still be depressed/suicidal. I know that’s part of the whole ‘stigma’ situation but sometimes it’s even hard for me to understand and I’m the one living with it.

I’ve felt like I’m less worthy of help because there’s other people out there who can’t even manage the basics to take care of themselves.

Then I see news stories of Chester Bennington, Robin Williams etc, and they’ve always used those photos of them looking really happy to make people see that you can look perfectly okay and have a really good life and still feel that pain so deep they took their own lives.

I don’t know, it just feels like an extra battle? Is that insensitive of me to say that? I apologise if it is, I don’t think I mean it the way it sounds.

I tested several times for dysthymia.

I pretty much always get out of bed, somewhat normal appetite.

That said very low self esteem, social anxiety keeps me to myself. I typically have a dull outlook of life and feel like a zombie.

If I weren't as busy, I would definitely be probably in bed all day.
 
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Sorry for the radio silence, been a mad few days, some of it good and some of it shit!

@TooMuchPain I feel completely the same, it’s awful really that the mental health services and support should feel accessible and worthy to everyone who needs it but we just live in a different world to the ideal and it’s all ended up messed up.
 
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