Hiding Depression Face?

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BoBbIE37

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I’m having trouble communicating with my bosses and co-workers because I sound/look dishonest about everything because I don’t truly care about anything. My face falls sometimes, I just can’t keep a happy face. I have to sound like I’m “excited” to do drywall. I don’t mind it, frankly I love that I’m finally working at least, but how excited do I need to pretend to be about everything? It hurts my feelings when people constantly ask why I seem unenthusiastic, to know I’m not really fooling anybody. I just wish I could sound happy, honestly I’ve noticed the fake it till you make it thing works. I can shift into a good mood eventually because a conversation will develop. But God I wish it was easier. How do you handle having to convince people you’re not secretly broken?
 
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I'm sorry that you've been struggling to keep yourself "happy" for others. But really, you don't have to pretend, it makes you feel so much worse when you do, because it uses all of your energy. Maybe if your job is bringing you no joy, try looking for something that you think you might enjoy, personally, mindfulness and meditation helps my mood, and helps me to relax and unwind. Hope this helps x
 
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I'm open about my mental illness and I have dialogs about it with people who I regularly associate with. I want them to understand what I'm struggling with, just to do day-to-day stuff. Hearing it from me means they don't need to come up some uninformed, usually negative impression of who I am.
 
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I’m having trouble communicating with my bosses and co-workers because I sound/look dishonest about everything because I don’t truly care about anything. My face falls sometimes, I just can’t keep a happy face. I have to sound like I’m “excited” to do drywall. I don’t mind it, frankly I love that I’m finally working at least, but how excited do I need to pretend to be about everything? It hurts my feelings when people constantly ask why I seem unenthusiastic, to know I’m not really fooling anybody. I just wish I could sound happy, honestly I’ve noticed the fake it till you make it thing works. I can shift into a good mood eventually because a conversation will develop. But God I wish it was easier. How do you handle having to convince people you’re not secretly broken?
It’s alright, you aren’t alone, my parents hated my “flat affect” and just my ability to be completely numb and devoid of emotion. Mindfulness helps a lot as well as being honest with people as to what you are dealing with. Having a mental illness isn’t anything to be ashamed of.
 
sadpunchingbag

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id talk to the boss say you are going through some things its hard on me i may look like i dont care but i do
 

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