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GP23

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Hi all

I have just registered to this forum as I wanted to first of all thank you all for helping me finally reach the end of a 3 hour panic attack as a result of reading this forum - the forum helped me relax and concentrate on something else as I connected with all your stories. Thank you so much for this forum and it is great knowing I am not alone.

I would also like to say sorry that many of you also experience what I have been experiencing in recent months and I really hope things get better for you all. I would also like to ask for your forgiveness. I deeply regret my misjudgement of those that explain they have panic attacks - I now realise just how real they are and I am truly sorry.

I am a guy in his early 30s and I experienced my first panic attack at the end of 2018. The experience was frightening to the point I almost called 999. The following morning I was so exhausted that I haven't really recovered since mentally and for the first time in my career I am starting to underperform quite noticeably at work.

Before today, I experienced a further two panic attacks but they were mild compared to the first one and these two only lasted about 25 mins. However, this evening I experienced an almost three hour long panic attack - it actually peaked after about 1 hr 30 mins. I can't believe how real panic attack actually are. Even a phone call to my girlfriend (which worked and calmed me down last time) did not work and I had to quickly end the call as I honestly thought I was going to die and my left hand couldn't even hold the phone. My girlfriend does not know yet about the panic attacks.

I am really concerned at what is happening and I would be really grateful for some advice on anything you think might help. I am fortunate in one sense that I am not registered with a GP because I have never had any health problems to date in my life. Do you think I should see a GP?

I am going back to my parents house this weekend as I think some quality time with mother hen is in order (mothers are still fantastic even in your 30s) - I live alone at the moment.

Thank you in advance
 
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Pollypop

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Hi GaryPrice23. I think it is essential that you register with a
GP.
Not just because of your panic attacks but incase you have any
kind of health problems in the future.

Have you any idea what started the attacks?

Things people say are
Try to control your breathing,
Try distraction,
And many other ideas.

These are ok if they work but I am unable to cope
like this yet.
I have had the same experience as you when using the phone.

I am glad you are able to your parents home.
It sounds as if it will be comforting.

My last word for now is that I think you should see a doctor.
This could give you some help and reassurance.

Hoping you are feeling better and best wishes
for the days to come.

Pollypop
 
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GP23

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Hi GaryPrice23. I think it is essential that you register with a
GP.
Not just because of your panic attacks but incase you have any
kind of health problems in the future.

Have you any idea what started the attacks?

Things people say are
Try to control your breathing,
Try distraction,
And many other ideas.

These are ok if they work but I am unable to cope
like this yet.
I have had the same experience as you when using the phone.

I am glad you are able to your parents home.
It sounds as if it will be comforting.

My last word for now is that I think you should see a doctor.
This could give you some help and reassurance.

Hoping you are feeling better and best wishes
for the days to come.

Pollypop
Hi Pollypop

Thank you for the reply.

I think the cause can only be one of three things or a combination:

-work related (most likely cause - I would like to leave but due to long work hours I am finding it hard to search for another role);
-I've always been a bit of worrier;
-I am flying soon and I do not like flying (it is not a phobia but it does make me anxious for months ahead and fits in with the worrier point above).

I have also tried controlling the breathing and distracting myself but like you I wasn't able to get this to work successfully. I think the controlling the breathing method made it a little worse tonight but I think distraction can be worked on and could help as I got it to work last time but unfortunately it didn't work tonight.

My parents home will be comforting. I am going back on Friday night for fish & chips and to relax until Sunday - I'm looking forward to getting away from the city for the weekend.

Thank you for the advice and I agree that I should register with a doctor, which I will do tomorrow. It's part of the reason why I asked - I think I just needed someone to tell me do it.

Thank you for taking the time to reply and all the best to you as well.
 
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Pollypop

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Hi GaryPrice23,

Trying to control my breathing also made me worse.
For me it made more aware I was having an attack.
I have been told to breathe with a paper bag over my nose and
mouth.
This affects the oxygen and carbon dioxide.

Did you manage to register with a doctor.
I imagine it may be difficult with long working hours, and also
finding a surgery that is taking on new patients.

I’m sure it would be beneficial to talk to a doctor.

Wishing you all the best with everything.
 
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Pollypop

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Hi GP,
Just thought I would drop in to see how you are.
I hope things have improved for you.

Pollypop x
 
Lunar Lady

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Hi GP23,

Panic attacks are so frightening - really sorry you're going through this.

I suffered terribly with panic attacks for about a year and a half. At the time, I was under immense stress. My father's sudden and unexpected death seemed to act as the catalyst for the panic attacks, so I'm wondering if you've gone through some sort of emotional trauma recently? It's easy to underestimate the emotional impact some situations have on us, so we don't always recognise the trigger straight away.

I would definitely let your doctor know what's going on.

The episodes became fewer and further between once I started to relax more and gave myself the space and time to heal. I took up Tai Chi and worked with relaxation techniques and guided meditation.

So glad you've got a great mum to support you. Tell your family exactly how you're feeling so they can give you the best support whilst this is going on.

Big hug x
 
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GP23

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Hello

I just thought I'd give an update for you lovely people.

A lot has happened since my last post (sorry I haven't been logged in for a while to respond).

After my last post I did decide to tell my parents about the panic attacks and they have really been supportive. That was definitely a good thing to do.

Unfortunately after my last post, I began experiencing new symptoms of panic or anxiety whereby whenever I tried to fall asleep I would end up jumping up gasping for air with what felt like my heart racing or fluttering. This occurred at least 5 to 6 times every night during April 19 before I managed to fall asleep. I would wake up very tired and then had to do a mentally challenging job.

If I was to explain or describe the powerful impact of a panic attack in as few words as possible I would say 'A panic attack is so life changing and powerful it turned me from a person who loved and enjoyed going to sleep to fearing going to bed every night'.

The above and the events since the end of 2018 had the end result of me quitting my job in May and I have been unemployed since June. Basically I was too tired and worried about my health and I was adamant my job was a major reason for the panic attacks. With my supportive parents I was fortunate to do this. I feel for those are cannot do the same.

I thought quitting my job would help and in some ways I am a convinced it has but unfortunately I did experience one further full on panic attack in July and I do still have regular occurances of the gasping for air at night before trying to fall asleep. However, it has not been every night unlike during April 19.

Nonetheless it is clear that I am still in a battle to try and stop these panic attacks and unfortunately it appears that quitting my job was not the only remedy. Therefore, my focus over the summer has been to try and find further solutions to improve my wellbeing.

The positive news is that I believe I am starting to find some solutions (touch wood and fingers crossed). For example, since the last full on panic attack in July 2019, I have felt 4 others coming on but I have managed to stop all 4 of them in its tracks by simply watching and following a YouTube video of someone doing yoga.

As soon as I feel one potentially coming on I simply search on YouTube 'yoga for panic attack' then click one video and follow it as best as I can. It is relaxing and on each occasion (except for 1) the onset of the panic attack went away by just watching one video then drinking a hot drink. On the one occasion where I still felt like I was about to have a panic attack I simply watched a second yoga video and followed it again and fortunately it went away.

The yoga videos for panic attacks on YouTube are easy to follow (no downward dogs or anything lol) and the people presenting them are really great and calming. It seems to be working wonders for me (fingers crossed again) in terms of stopping the panic attacks in their tracks before they get worse. I know this might not work for everyone but if it can help me I'm sure it can help someone else so if you haven't tried it I would recommend giving it a try if you feel a panic attack coming on.

As mentioned before, I am still having occurrences of gasping for air before trying to fall asleep but I am developing better habits which seem to be reducing how often this is occurring. For 2 weeks now I have been taking hot baths every night at around 20:00 and avoiding my phone and the news from this point until the next morning. I think this is helping because I have only had the gasping for air at night happen once in the last 2 weeks.

I also now read a book for 30 mins before bed and I have also given up coffee and now only drink a cup of tea in the morning. I have camomile and honey as my hot drink after dinner.

I am still battling but I have noticed some positive signs from the solutions noted and I thought I would let you guys know. I will also be working again soon and as soon as this happens I am going to get a private health check on my heart for the extra peace of mind.

Thanks guys. Wishing everyone all the best

Gary
 
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Pollypop

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This is brilliant news GP23. And thank you for the update.

There is so much positivity, information and help in your post.
It is an inspiration.

You have worked on so many things and found yourself some
super strategies.

I’m sure some of these will be really helpful to others who are
going through some of these difficult situations.

I know that I will definitely be trying some of your really useful and
thoughtful advice in your update.

Keep moving forward like you are and keep us updated.

Best wishes, Pollypop
 
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