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Hi m dawn..in need of guidance and support

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Hi I’m 53 my family hate me I have no support..I lost my mother recently and she was my support..I have attempted suicide once and failed..which I think I’m glad of.but I don’t know what to do now
 
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Hello Dawn :hug:

This place is full of people who have experienced the same things as you and WILL support you.

Can you tell us a little more? Do you live alone right now? Are you working?

You don't need to answer anything that doesn't feel comfortable - the details just help to build a picture of what your "now" is like for you.

Big hug x
 
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I live with my husband I don’t work as I broke my back a few years ago so now disabled..I love my husband but can’t talk to him..he doesn’t understand much I say I’m ok he says ok..
 
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My now is feeling totally alone...
 
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Losing your mum is an enormous, life changing event - even more so, because you and your mum were so close. It takes a long time to process grief - and it's a roller coaster of emotions. You are going through something immensely painful - it's very hard.

Your mum must have loved you very much - the last thing she would want is for you to think about giving up on life. I know what it feels like to be so low and feel so invisible that you start to wish you could disappear...but it passes.

I promise you, it passes and things will get better.

If you had a chat with your GP, they may well organise some counselling or appropriate support for you. You may well benefit from some medication just whilst things are so hard.

Have you talked to anybody about how you're feeling? x
 
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Ty I spoke to my go he put me on pills and referred me to talking therapy..unfortunately they have a minimum of 3 months waiting list so I’m in limbo at the moment with no help or support
 
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I think I need face to face help but can’t get it..I just need to talk to a real person I think.someone who understands and not judges
 
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You've found this place....and you'll find support here. :grouphug:

Most importantly, you'll be able to express yourself to people who will understand exactly how you're feeling - many going through the same struggles as you.

Please don't forget about The Samaritans if you need to hear a human voice...people always think their sole purpose is to talk people down from bridges...they will talk happily to anybody who's feeling very low.

Do you have any close friends you can talk openly to?
 
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Not any more..I had my friend but she passed away last year...I know it’s hard to believe but I have 4 children 3 grandchildren and a husband but can’t talk to any of them..my kids have fell iout with me they say that I’m attention seeking and a drama queen and can’t talk to my husband as he’s part of my problems so on my own
 
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Can I ask what bought you here
 
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I'm so sorry you're feeling so alone right now.

Dawn, some of the most experienced listeners and practical counsellors are pastors. It doesn't matter if you are without a religious faith - if you have a local church, you can phone your vicar and ask to meet for a talk. This is part and parcel of what they do professionally, and they will be able to listen, support and advise.

Also might be a good idea to have a google and see what local groups meet in your area - there's often coffee mornings or things going on that you could get involved in to widen your support network, make some friends and get away from your home life for a bit.

I know I'm not sat with you right now - but I'm a real person who cares - we all are. Keep talking to us and read other peoples stories here to get some ideas and comfort in the knowledge that you're really not alone. x
 
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I've come here for support - I battle with depression, anxiety and other health issues. I've been lone parenting for eleven years and struggle with sleeping. This seemed a good place to hear how other people manage and also have that company in the early hours of the morning when I feel most alone.
 
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I'm so sorry you're feeling so alone right now.

Dawn, some of the most experienced listeners and practical counsellors are pastors. It doesn't matter if you are without a religious faith - if you have a local church, you can phone your vicar and ask to meet for a talk. This is part and parcel of what they do professionally, and they will be able to listen, support and advise.

Also might be a good idea to have a google and see what local groups meet in your area - there's often coffee mornings or things going on that you could get involved in to widen your support network, make some friends and get away from your home life for a bit.

I know I'm not sat with you right now - but I'm a real person who cares - we all are. Keep talking to us and read other peoples stories here to get some ideas and comfort in the knowledge that you're really not alone. x
Ty..I have just looked into going to my local church but still deciding..I live in a village so groups and resources are slim
 
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Well done for making that step. (You are not obligated to attend a service - you can meet with a vicar on a one-to-one basis at the Rectory - or they will come to you.)

Sometimes, its amazing how many things are going on in your area without realising - friendly coffee mornings and all sorts of clubs and support groups.

Please...don't feel things are hopeless. Be kind to yourself - you've had a great loss added to already difficult circumstances...it's okay to feel lost and empty...but please believe me when I say it will get better.

Big hug x
 
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