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River356

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Hi Guys
Just wanted to introduce myself to this forum.
I have struggled with anxiety ever since I was 20 years old. I'm now 33 and have had my fair share of ups and downs with my ocd.
Just recently though (which has shocked me to be honest)
I've had doubts about actually being in love with my husband or not.
We've been together for 16 to 17 years and married 14 years.
My anxiety has chosen different themes to obsess about.
But this one is about him.
What I'm stuck with is, is this just another thing my anxiety has chosen to pick on or am I actually falling out of love?
We've had our ups and downs lately and going through a rough patch.
I just don't want to do anything stupid.
We have 2 kids together so to be honest I don't want to hurt them.
I'm just so lost at the minute,
Can anyone advise please?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
 
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Dunkin donut

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Ur married 14 years that's amazing but for my I hide my depression with a smile have u told Ur husband how Ur feeling I know that easy to say the right stuff on a keyboard but I'm just ashamed to talk to someone face to face
 
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River356

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Hi Dunkin Dohnut

Yes we have had quite a few heart to hearts and he asked me if I loved him? I said yes
He then asked me if I'm in love with him? I said I just don't know what that really means.
I've been with this man ever since we were 16. All I've ever known is this relationship.
We said we would work through this hard time.
But I feel so numb I dont know who I am anymore.
I want to save our marriage but I don't want to lead him on if my feelings have gone.
I know people are probably thinking "you know if your in love with someone".
I just don't know if my doubts are my anxiety in disguise or if my feelings are true.
 
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Dunkin donut

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We're all outcasts at one stage in life and your more then welcome to talk to me I try not to judge life is hard enough
 
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Dunkin donut

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Hi Dunkin Dohnut

Yes we have had quite a few heart to hearts and he asked me if I loved him? I said yes
He then asked me if I'm in love with him? I said I just don't know what that really means.
I've been with this man ever since we were 16. All I've ever known is this relationship.
We said we would work through this hard time.
But I feel so numb I dont know who I am anymore.
I want to save our marriage but I don't want to lead him on if my feelings have gone.
I know people are probably thinking "you know if your in love with someone".
I just don't know if my doubts are my anxiety in disguise or if my feelings are true.
I'm not as wise as u .you been in a stable relationship for 14 years that's something I always wanted but could never get I was open about my feelings till I started filling depression now I hide it with a smile
 
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River356

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We're all outcasts at one stage in life and your more then welcome to talk to me I try not to judge life is hard enough
I just know how real and scary our anxiety can be and the things it does to fool us.
 
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I'm not as wise as u .you been in a stable relationship for 14 years that's something I always wanted but could never get I was open about my feelings till I started filling depression now I hide it with a smile
How long have you suffered with depression? I'm sorry to hear that
 
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Dunkin donut

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My brother killed himself about 13 years ago and I never spotted it I never forgive myself and over them next 13 years I learned how to hide my depression with a smile
 
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River356

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My brother killed himself about 13 years ago and I never spotted it I never forgive myself and over them next 13 years I learned how to hide my depression with a smile
Oh gosh..... I'm so sorry to hear that. You musnt blame urself though. I know that's easy for me to say. I can't imagine ur pain
 
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Dunkin donut

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Oh gosh..... I'm so sorry to hear that. You musnt blame urself though. I know that's easy for me to say. I can't imagine ur pain
Life is pain but at some stage everybody has a breaking point how are u feeling
 
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