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After the week from hell and having that one thing that tipped me over the edge I thought maybe talking to people who arnt feeling themselves might help. My brother tried to take his life for the 3rd time this year and me struggling to cope finding him I just want to know that I’m not going mad because I can’t get my head round it all. Any advice from people who have a relative that is addicted to alchohol and has attempted suicide and how you cope with that would be great fully received as I’m struggling a lot.... I have suffered with depression on and off since my mum abandoned dad ya at 13, now at 33 I feel a shame though the only things that keep me going are my kids.
 
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Hi! I’m new too but your comment stood out to me as I lost a friend through a similar situation. He’d tried twice before to end it, and managed it successfully the third time. His family even now, 10 years later, feel guilty and tortured. If they are intent on doing it through alcohol problems or clinical depression (or both) there’s not much you can do to stop it I’m afraid. The only thing you can do is be there for him. Make him smile. Try to understand how he feels and offer part of your heart to fill the void in his. Your anxiety won’t help you or him, yet you won’t cope without the fight or flight action. It’s a horrendous situation and I really feel for you having seen it happen. Has he sought any help to maybe come off the alcohol at all? Does he only try and end his life while in the clutches of the booze? Whatever it is that’s causing him to deal with things that way, needs to be found and spoken about. Talking to strangers helps x
 
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I would suggest giving him freedom and letting him talk to you without concern. Let him know you are not looking down your nose at him. Let him know you accept him just they way he is. Also let him know there is no alcohol on the otherside.....
 
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Hi,
Please try to persuade him to see his GP, they can offer support etc.
The Samaritans are good listeners
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Must be very distressing for you, my grandad committed suicide so I do understand.
Take care
 
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I would suggest giving him freedom and letting him talk to you without concern. Let him know you are not looking down your nose at him. Let him know you accept him just they way he is. Also let him know there is no alcohol on the otherside.....

Thanks for the advice. X
 
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Helpmeshiftthepressure

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Hi,
Please try to persuade him to see his GP, they can offer support etc.
The Samaritans are good listeners
Contact us
Must be very distressing for you, my grandad committed suicide so I do understand.
Take care
Thank you, he is currently in a stable unit to detox him again, this is the 3rd time he has been through this this year, he has been diagnosed with multiple personality disorder and suffers from huge abandonment issues. This was something that was never addressed when he was in his teens. He is now 39 his wife left him for another man and after a string of relationships since her leaving he has just got worst. I keep stressing to the Carr team that he needs to address his issues not just detox and then be sent on his way. I’m not sure if this is a uk forum but the resources just arnt there. Our mum isn’t around to help answer my dad has turned his back on him after he has tried to help him and my brother treating him so badly. My dad doesn’t understand mental health he is very old skool and believes it’s just him being selfish.... it’s very frustrating. I have a family and 4 children so I can’t have them seeing him like this so he can’t stay with us. I suppose I just need to let go and let whatever is going to happen happen but I don’t want it to. I suppose that’s what hurts the most is that I want to help him but my help doesn’t work x
 
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