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Hi, I’m new and need advice please

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Jipper20

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Hi, I’m a new member, need advice about seeing my doctor later today to speak about my depression I’m quite new to this and I’m scared to tell my doctor everything without feeling judged. I’ve recently started self harming but not serious but I’m scared to tell my doctor this, has anyone else spoke to their doctor about this? I’m really anxious about going to my appointment but I know I have to. To try and get better. I have had suicidal thoughts but nothing that I would act on so I don’t know why I have self harmed as a way to stop my stress and to stop feeling so numb inside. If anyone can help?
 
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hi x welcome
doctors are used to people telling them about self harm and suicidal feelings
it might be a good idea to write down a few thoughts and feelings before you go
I really hope it goes well ,im sure you wont be judged so please do not worry
love Lu xxxxxx
 
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Please tell your doctor everything as then he can be at his best to help you. Like Lu said write things down on a list and take it with you and just talk about it. You do not need to suffer. I self harm and it was so bad that the doctor always noticed. I remember one time I was trying to hide my sores and I had 46 bandaids on-can you imagine that. I lived on the beach at the time so wearing long sleeves was out of the question due to the heat but I wore the dumb bandaids. Who was I fooling except myself. Have a good visit with your doctor and lots of love and hugs
 
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Thank you for replying, it means a lot. It hasn’t been serious self harm nothing so deep but on my leg so it can be hidden. I’m just scared of how to say it when I can barely believe I’ve done something like this. I couldn’t even bring myself to telling my fiance so I’m worried I won’t tell my doctor and it’ll just get worse. Thank you for the advice of writing down my thoughts before I think this will help xx
 
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I couldnt bring myself to tell my doctor but i knew i needed help so i wrote down on a piece of paper "I self harm" and handed it to him. That way i couldnt back out of it.
My doctor was very supportive and understood. After all they do see it regularly.
Hugs
Fox
 
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I agree with everyone else. I always advocate telling the Doctor everything as they need the fullest possible picture to enable them to do their best for you. Don’t worry about being tearful etc as that just shows your true situation.

Good luck now, and always.
 
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Yes you should tell your doc and do as others have said , if you can’t say it write it down. I’ve done that on a few occasions with both my GP and pdoc. If you don’t tell them they can get the full picture of how you rally are :hug:
 
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