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enoughisenough
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I have just joined this site as l can't deal with my narcissistic mother anymore. I don't really know who to talk to. I have friends l have talked to but l sense they don't really get it. My mother has always been totally self centred. I grew up in her shadow constantly. She always had to be the better looking one, the more popular etc. I didn't appreciate how bad this was until l had therapy a few years ago. My mother has never been on her own. She married young and went straight from divorcing my father into another marriage that lasted over 30 years. My stepfather died nearly 6 years ago. Since he died her already bad behaviour is now just intolerable. She has become an alcoholic (l know this as l have been sober for 14 years and had many similar traits) she starts drinking at midday and just carries on. She is breaking all Covid rules, just because 'she is lonely' as if she is different from everyone else! She sends me vile texts (clearly after drinking to excess as they are barely coherent) saying that she doesn't understand why l won't let her see my kids (because of Covid, her blatant refusal to adhere to the rules, coupled with out of control drinking). She continually emotionally blackmails me. She has also said she hates my husband who has been incredibly generous to her. She rings me every day! It feels like she does it deliberately to push my buttons. She never asks how l am (very depressed) but just goes on about herself. I don't want to talk to her. I actually hate her but l know l can't confront her about her behaviour as she will do her 'poor me' act and say how evil and cruel l am. I think her alcoholism is at the centre of it all but because l am in recovery she thinks that l am obsessed with drinking and passing judgment on others drinking (only hers and my brother. I am sure we have a hereditary gene) l am at my wits end and it is making me feel ill. I wanted to see if anyone else had experience and how they dealt with it? xx
