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Help with undiagnosed bipolar 2 wife

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Chris3141

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To provide an update on this I have found that she does not in fact have bipolar. I believe that she may be a covert narcissist or NPD. She still barely ever sees her kids. She continues to blame everyone for her problems. Her bf broke up with her and she was right back here convincing the children I should take her back, she told me everything I wanted to hear so I actually started to agree. She also told me about how badly her ex bf treated her. As soon as her bf found out she was talking to me he told her he messed up and that they should get married and have babies... she told me she wants him but also wants me and how " I have no idea how hard it is to have to choose between two great options". She still wanted to be friends and hang with me and the kids and do "stuff" which I really believe implys sleeping together.... I told her I couldnt. I now realize I have been through a constant cycle of love bombing, and devaluation that mimicked the cycle of bipolar. I am still going through the trama bond and cant seem to let go of her mentally.... i know she will never love the kids or myself which is a hard pill to swallow... I just know that soon her bf will break up with her again and I'm going to have to deal with her trying to force her way back into my life again. She will even go as far as using the kids as pawns...(she had my son tell me to give her a second chance the last time... he is 3...)
 
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Mary Agnes

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The house she moved into has 4 other ppl living there. N her new Bf, J her sexting friend plus his gf, and N brother. She doesnt seem to be a danger to them but right now she only sees them for like 3 hrs a week. She seems to want to see them but just never asks for them. I think its cuz right now she is working alot to try and afford her stuff plus when she is free she is going out bowling and ice skating etc all the time with her bf. She never seemed to want to do that stuff with me she just wanted to chill on the couch and watch TV. Plus they are supposedly looking at apartments but she said they were planning on a 1 bdrm which I told her she wouldn't be able to have the kids stay and she seemed shocked but said ok...
Hi Chris,
So sorry to hear of your your issues with your wife. I was diagnosed with bi polar 2 many years ago. And a lot of your wife’s problems could be down to her mental health. It’s not an easy situation to be in as my mother had the same illness and I was her career for many years. She will not see this as an illness, personally your wife will think there is nothing wrong with her. Sounds like she needs professional help.. Check out support groups in your area that help families cope with this problem. Take Care Things do get better.
 
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Mary Agnes

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Hi Chris,
So sorry to hear of your your issues with your wife. I was diagnosed with bi polar 2 many years ago. And a lot of your wife’s problems could be down to her mental health. It’s not an easy situation to be in as my mother had the same illness and I was her career for many years. She will not see this as an illness, personally your wife will think there is nothing wrong with her. Sounds like she needs professional help.. Check out support groups in your area that help families cope with this problem. Take Care Things do get better.
Sorry Had not read all of your notes. Just new to this . Still trial and error. That’s good news your wife not bipolar.. Hope things get better .
 
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