- Apr 9, 2019
- New york
Hi everyone, this is new to me but I've been having a really tough time with all of this. My soon to be ex wife I believe is undiagnosed bipolar 2. We have been married for 6 years but when I met her she was the girl of my dreams. We have 2 kids together 6 and 3. We have had our ups and downs but overall I'd say a fairly healthy relationship other than some post partum depression (or atleast so we thought after my 3yo). Over Christmas and January we had a really good time with lots of smiles. Things went down hill when my daughter had 2 weeks off from school and my wife always had a really tough time with this, she always gets so easily agitated with my kids. She then made a really weird comment about how it would be interesting to sleep with other ppl. I thought this was really weird and looked into her fb account. I found that she was sexting a guy we will call him J. I confronted her and she broke down saying she didnt want to do anything but the idea intrigued her. Over the next few days she expressed the desire but that it wasnt a 100 have to have. I had problems with this but tried to understand. She then got mad that I searched her fb and told me age was going to hang out with a different guy friend. I had a problem with this but she was mad and said she needed it. This guy "N" lives with J. So this kept going on for a few weeks and she kept saying that she loves me and isnt going to leave. I then caught her telling J he could come over and what ever happens happens... I confronted her again and she broke down again saying she loves me so much and I'm the best thing that has ever happened to her. And that she thinks something is wrong with her and that she doesnt understand why she has the desire to be sexual and dishonest and that she needs professional help. After this she started talking alot to N and it seemed like an emotional affair was building. I kept asking her to stop, but she wouldn't stop talking to him, as he is now her bf (known him for 6 months). I then got us into counsling. 2 days later she then cheats with N. He is 6 yrs younger, has anxiety and depression and only ever wanted a GF as he only had 1 in his life. He is fairly strange and also has a crappy job. She then told me she didnt know who she wanted... I then talked with her and she decided to pick N over me and her kids. She then said I made her choose. Now she is giving me custody of the kids and the house and only wants to see the kids 1. She now hates me at random times and is friendly at others, sleeps only 3 hrs a night (never looks tired) and is going out all the time. She says things that dont make since like I never see my kids and then says put the kids in daycare so i dont have to watch them so I can get a 40 hr job. She also flips on things she said and stated that those txt messages were mo the old. They were only 2 weeks old. She sometimes starts talking really fast but only late at night and says she is the happiest she has been in awhile and no longer depressed or having mood swings. It's been hell cuz I love her so much but cant believe she is making these choices. I now see a pattern in our life of low depression and hatred for herself and then ups where she would get energetic need little sleep, and want to go do things when she was naturally abit lazy. I did finally convince her to see a psych cuz I'm really worried about her even if it doesnt help our relationship but atleast for my kids. Last thing to is it's all about her feelings. When my son balled his eyes out I miss my mom all she cared about was to tell me she was mad at me for not listening to her earlier. This has been the hardest time in my life...