• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

help please...

T

TryingToRecover

Member
Joined
Feb 24, 2013
Messages
6
Location
MN ,USA
Ive not been eating for a long time and now slowly eating but end up compensating for it all right away afterwards or later ,my body is starting to eat itself with lack of food i give it and cals lack of to ,

Ive been dancing since age 8,and thinking of going back to dancing and one one to loose weight other to have fun , but mostly to loose weight ,Im hoping to be 80-90 lbs, Im now 5"3" in height and underweight borderline underweight my doc says .

My doc wants me to eat 3 times a day and 2 snacks but thats to much for me HELLLLPPPPPPPPPPP
Freaking outtttttttt and i have a food/calorie phobia to .
 
calypso

calypso

Well-known member
Admin
Moderator
Joined
Jan 5, 2011
Messages
43,432
Location
Lancashire
Hiya, I don't have an ED so not sure that I can really help. But I do know that the fear of something is greater than the thing instead. Has your doc given you a referral to the psychiatric team? Just saying eat three meals a day is not very helpful. I once had a friend who was hugely overweight, and her doc said, "You do know you are over weight?" - like she had never noticed !!! Not helpful.

Would there be any mileage in taking some of those food drinks so it doesn't feel like you are full up but gives you energy and good vitamin balance. It might also help with dancing for pleasure. Being afraid of calories is a symptom, not a diagnosis in a way. So looking at what you are truly afraid about is the way forward. However, most of us can not do that alone. Your doc might be thinking that you have to get worse before you need help - again, NOT helpful. So ask him for that referral and if you can have some therapy and soon.

I hope someone who knows more about EDs comes along soon for you. :grouphug:
 
L

LeeMarie

Well-known member
Joined
May 17, 2012
Messages
805
Location
U.S.
Doctors are not very helpful unless they specialize in EDs. My doctor always says "try to gain weight next time I see you". No kidding? Well, I hadn't thought of that! He also offered to put me on an antidepressant with an appetite stimulant - does he think I can go all day without eating and not be hungry? It's my mind -- not my appetite. I'm sure you know that 80-90 pounds is way too small for your height. You will likely be hospitalized at that point and not able to dance anyway. You need to go to a nutrionist and therapy. Keep posting. - Lee
 
B

BeenThere

Member
Joined
Jan 22, 2013
Messages
11
I agree with asking for a referral for therapy. and LeeMarie's comment, "It's my mind --not my appetite."
I think the hardest thing about this condition is realizing that the mind sometimes needs healing too. There's some stigma about having a mental illness. But separate the words. It's with your brain. And it's an illness just like any other illness: diabetes, cancer, virus. There's no shame in that part of your body needing medical help.
When I was 15 and in the depths of an eating disorder, I would have loved to have told my folks that I needed to see a doctor for it. If I'd been having headaches or stomach aches, I wouldn't have hesitated asking to see a doctor. But because it was mental, I never asked. Because it was mental, I thought I could control it. As I went out on my own (university), I found it easier to seek help from doctors and an addiction self-help group. It was still a secret I kept from those I knew personally. But I was taking active steps to face the problem. Now, 43 and looking back, it was a combination of seeking that help and reading, prayer and eventually medication for depression and anxiety that helped me.
You'll find your combination too. Keep seeking.
 
Top