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Help - Paranoia / Think people don't like me / Worried that people talk about me, laugh at me and make fun of me?

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Danny101

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Help - Paranoia / Think people don't like me / Worried that people talk about me, laugh at me and make fun of me?

Hi all,

I'm new around these parts so sorry for jumping straight in. My issue seems insignificant and minute compared to others, but I'm just looking for help and / or advice if possible.

For as long as I can remember, I've always worried about what people think about me. Often, my first reaction is that people automatically don't like me. If I walk into an area, and a group of people are there sharing a joke amongst themselves and start laughing, I automatically start to assume they're laughing at me.

I think people are judging me at. I think people are making fun of me. I'm trying to mind read.

This issue has held me back in life as I've often avoided doing something I would like to do as I worry about what if they don't like me or they don't like what I'm doing, or what if they start laughing at me and making fun of me and talking about me behind my back?

There's probably more I could add to this but my mind is just a bit scrambled at the minute.

I've read a lot of books about trying to take control of these issues and change these beliefs and while these books have helped, they haven't been effective as I would like.

Could anybody advise as to what the best form of therapy / treatment they think or that they would recommend would be best effective for this issue I have(whatever it is?) as there are so many treatment types available.

Warm thanks,
D101.
 
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natalie

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Hi Danny101,

I experience paranoia as well, from time to time, in the sense also, I feel that people are talking about me, only after I have been too somewhere within reason, althoiugh I have mild tendancies of suffering with paranoia.
Paranoia for me only happens on the odd occasion. For me also, paranoia, can feel worse, during or just after a holiday away and I then suffer with paranoia, very badly, so I can understand, where you are coming from, similar to me.


Coiuld I suggest that you contact either your mental health department, if you are under one still, or alternaitively see your GP for a mental health department referral, and then at your referral appointment, you'll be put in to the right direction.



I wish you well, eventually with this problem you're having currently.


I hope you'll receive the help you'll need, also maybe try listening to music, pre recorded cds usually help me out for this immensely. And with the aid of my personal cd player with headphones, just a tip.


Natalie.
 
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Hi Danny. :welcome: to the forum.

Agree with Natalie, speak to your GP see what he suggests.
You can self refer online for cbt with talking therapies, who will assess you for therapy too, there is a waiting list, how long a wait you have , usually is depending on what area you live in and what the wait list is like.

Hope you find the forum helpful.

Best wishes
Unique xx
 
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Hi all,

I'm new around these parts so sorry for jumping straight in. My issue seems insignificant and minute compared to others, but I'm just looking for help and / or advice if possible.

For as long as I can remember, I've always worried about what people think about me. Often, my first reaction is that people automatically don't like me. If I walk into an area, and a group of people are there sharing a joke amongst themselves and start laughing, I automatically start to assume they're laughing at me.

I think people are judging me at. I think people are making fun of me. I'm trying to mind read.

This issue has held me back in life as I've often avoided doing something I would like to do as I worry about what if they don't like me or they don't like what I'm doing, or what if they start laughing at me and making fun of me and talking about me behind my back?

There's probably more I could add to this but my mind is just a bit scrambled at the minute.

I've read a lot of books about trying to take control of these issues and change these beliefs and while these books have helped, they haven't been effective as I would like.

Could anybody advise as to what the best form of therapy / treatment they think or that they would recommend would be best effective for this issue I have(whatever it is?) as there are so many treatment types available.

Warm thanks,
D101.
That is fair enough to feel 'paranoid' if you have reason to. In my experience I once thought I was paranoid, or very very unwell but it was actually true: people were actually laughing at me, making fun, and commenting on my every move (past and present) to the pint of absolute terror on my behalf. It is not unreasonable to be mistrusting or upset if these things are actually happening even more so when those responsible for personal attacks have no explanation as to why they are behaving in such a way.
 
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That is fair enough to feel 'paranoid' if you have reason to. In my experience I once thought I was paranoid, or very very unwell but it was actually true: people were actually laughing at me, making fun, and commenting on my every move (past and present) to the pint of absolute terror on my behalf. It is not unreasonable to be mistrusting or upset if these things are actually happening even more so when those responsible for personal attacks have no explanation as to why they are behaving in such a way.
But I don't know if they are laughing at me. In fact, when I sit down and analyse it logically there is s very very slim chance they are laughing at me. Again, I don't know if they're talking about me. It's highly unlikely as well.
 
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Hi Danny101,

I experience paranoia as well, from time to time, in the sense also, I feel that people are talking about me, only after I have been too somewhere within reason, althoiugh I have mild tendancies of suffering with paranoia.
Paranoia for me only happens on the odd occasion. For me also, paranoia, can feel worse, during or just after a holiday away and I then suffer with paranoia, very badly, so I can understand, where you are coming from, similar to me.


Coiuld I suggest that you contact either your mental health department, if you are under one still, or alternaitively see your GP for a mental health department referral, and then at your referral appointment, you'll be put in to the right direction.



I wish you well, eventually with this problem you're having currently.


I hope you'll receive the help you'll need, also maybe try listening to music, pre recorded cds usually help me out for this immensely. And with the aid of my personal cd player with headphones, just a tip.


Natalie.
Hi Danny. :welcome: to the forum.

Agree with Natalie, speak to your GP see what he suggests.
You can self refer online for cbt with talking therapies, who will assess you for therapy too, there is a waiting list, how long a wait you have , usually is depending on what area you live in and what the wait list is like.

Hope you find the forum helpful.

Best wishes
Unique xx
Thank you both for taking the time out to reply to me. :)
 
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Your Welcome, Danny101, do let us know how you'll get on.
 
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Hey Danny, younger people who are still worried about peer or social acceptance seem to have this problem and it's quite common but I do agree with the recommendations here about getting evaluated just to have peace of mind. But what about this, you think they are talking and joking about you, why don't you test doing something and see what happens?
 
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when I sit down and analyse it logically there is s very very slim chance they are laughing at me. Again, I don't know if they're talking about me. It's highly unlikely as well.
Listen to your logical self, it is usually right!
I have found this true time and time again through personal experience.
Lets pretend for a moment that you accept this conclusion as truth, that they are likely laughing at something that has nothing to do with you. Even on the off chance that you turn out to be wrong, what is the down side? I can't see one. Except maybe being embarrassed briefly when you find out the truth, but it sure beats the downside of the alternative.
The downside of the alternative, continuing to worry about things that aren't likely true, is that you will continue to feel anxious or nervous all the time around people and possibly miss out on things you want to do often.
So which do you choose? Embarrassed for a moment (if at all), or anxious and nervous all the time?
I know its not always so simple. But sometimes it can be.

If you are able to think logically about things like this, part of the work is already done. Continue to think logically when you worry, and combat your illogical worries with your logical conclusions. Anytime an illogical fear pops into your brain, remember why its not true, and really believe your logical self. When you believe your logic, you will feel your anxiety diminish and instead you'll feel calm and be able to focus on something else while maintaining the feeling of calm (at least that's the way it makes me feel). Sometimes this takes a lot of concentration, you might really have to convince yourself, and sometimes it only lasts a few minutes or less before you are right back to worrying. That's okay.
Pay attention to how you're feeling, and each time you notice yourself worrying again, remind yourself why there is no reason to worry until you feel calm again. Each time it will become slightly easier. And if you keep at it, you'll start to do this automatically out of habit, replacing the old habit of over worrying with the healthier alternative of being logical.
Don't get discouraged if its not easy at first. It will get easier with time a practice and once it does you will be so glad that you did the work and didn't give up.

I hope that makes sense, I'm trying to keep this response short.
Also it might help to realize that other people don't pay nearly as much attention to your actions as you do. If someone notices something embarrassing you do, it will probably take a short amount of time for them to forget about it, because there are just so many other things to be thinking about. And thank god for that!

To test this out, think about something embarrassing that someone else did, say about a month ago. Can you even think of anything? If you can, how long between the time it occurred and now have you even thought about the incident? Did you forget it even happened until now? What about a week ago?

I'm trying to write shorter posts so this is all pretty paraphrased, but I hope it still makes sense. And I hope you find something useful or comforting from it.
 
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Hi all,

I'm new around these parts so sorry for jumping straight in. My issue seems insignificant and minute compared to others, but I'm just looking for help and / or advice if possible.

For as long as I can remember, I've always worried about what people think about me. Often, my first reaction is that people automatically don't like me. If I walk into an area, and a group of people are there sharing a joke amongst themselves and start laughing, I automatically start to assume they're laughing at me.

I think people are judging me at. I think people are making fun of me. I'm trying to mind read.

This issue has held me back in life as I've often avoided doing something I would like to do as I worry about what if they don't like me or they don't like what I'm doing, or what if they start laughing at me and making fun of me and talking about me behind my back?

There's probably more I could add to this but my mind is just a bit scrambled at the minute.

I've read a lot of books about trying to take control of these issues and change these beliefs and while these books have helped, they haven't been effective as I would like.

Could anybody advise as to what the best form of therapy / treatment they think or that they would recommend would be best effective for this issue I have(whatever it is?) as there are so many treatment types available.

Warm thanks,
D101.
Hi D101,

The important thing to understand here is that, as harsh as it sounds, people aren't interested in you all the time. A group of people are laughing at a joke, and suddenly they're mocking you? A person glances your way, and suddenly they are judging your personality and character? Jumping to conclusions doesn't follow a logical thought process, so it's important you realise that.

It appears as if you're experiencing some symptoms of anxiety. I'd advise consulting a GP to get an appointment for a therapist/counsellor/psychiatrist and medication. Professional help is available to improve your wellbeing!

Much love <3
 
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Just to point out, the OP and the main part of the first page was posted last year (though the dates do tally!)
 
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I had this type of paranoia since as far back as high school.

I'm 37.

There was an incident that created a psychic break for me. I was in terrible situations and made even worse decisions.

I have been in treatment since then. It still flares up from time to time, but this one is a multi-layered paranoia.

I'm trying to get out of it.
 
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Danny I fight the same battles, and have been since 10th grade.
 
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