- Jun 17, 2021
- Liverpool UK
A few years ago my daughter was diagnosed with BPD she is now 35. Since being a teenager she had been difficult to deal with and has caused me untold misery. However, it turns out that she was abused by a babysitter when she was a child. She never told me about it until he died. I was so shocked and upset and couldnt understand why she hadnt told me at the time. Anyway, as the years have gone by she has said and done some really horrible things to me and upset me so much, she also blames me for everything and says it was the way she was brought up, which incidentally was a normal working class family with 3 other siblings. When she was diagnosed with BPD I tried to let the way she speaks to me and treat me go over my head as I know she has an illness but sometimes she is so cruel to me I just feel like running away. I want things to be good between us but she really makes my life a misery sometimes. What can I do to make our relationship work. I can't just ignore the vile things she says to me because they make me feel so despondent and her behaviour also makes me very anxious. I want to be there for her but it is very hard.