- Nov 17, 2020
Am I the only one who is really in her head during sex? It stops me from enjoying it and makes sex very performative and unenjoyable for me. During sex I'll start thinking about my grocery list, about my partner's facial hair I don't like, about my weight gain, about what I look like, about what I have to clean or have disturbing, disgusting, intrusive thoughts about my family members, or other very violent/bizarre un-nameable scenarios. I don't have unusual kinks (I have very low libido, too), so any image that isn't romantic and vanilla-porn-like that pops up in my head (which happens a lot) completely ruins the mood for me.