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greencat
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Hi everyone,
As I posted in introductions http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/thread124451.html my partner suffers from depression and anxiety. He has done so for a few years. It's been difficult to get him to seek help, though he has an appointment with a threapist in a couple of weeks, and I really, really hope it helps.
Right now, though, he's in a quagmire of negativity and self-pity, and he's taking it out on the rest of us. If I say anything, he tells me that I'm negative, or he takes it as criticism. Or worse, he says the easy option is just for him to 'disappear'. It's making the house a very negative place to be, and hurting the children's self-confidence.
If I ask if there's anything I can do to help, he suggests that I should tidy because he finds it stressful that the house is a mess. Later, if I haven't done it, he seems to think I'm ignoring his needs.
I work full time, help the kids with homework, do the laundry, organise all the kids activities, etc. I'm also trying to do some remodelling (which I started when my partner was feeling somewhat better).
The negativity is really starting to get to me, and the kids. I don't know what to do about it.
Last Sunday, I took the kids out and did something fun with them. I think it did us all good, but we can't do that every day.
As I posted in introductions http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/thread124451.html my partner suffers from depression and anxiety. He has done so for a few years. It's been difficult to get him to seek help, though he has an appointment with a threapist in a couple of weeks, and I really, really hope it helps.
Right now, though, he's in a quagmire of negativity and self-pity, and he's taking it out on the rest of us. If I say anything, he tells me that I'm negative, or he takes it as criticism. Or worse, he says the easy option is just for him to 'disappear'. It's making the house a very negative place to be, and hurting the children's self-confidence.
If I ask if there's anything I can do to help, he suggests that I should tidy because he finds it stressful that the house is a mess. Later, if I haven't done it, he seems to think I'm ignoring his needs.
I work full time, help the kids with homework, do the laundry, organise all the kids activities, etc. I'm also trying to do some remodelling (which I started when my partner was feeling somewhat better).
The negativity is really starting to get to me, and the kids. I don't know what to do about it.
Last Sunday, I took the kids out and did something fun with them. I think it did us all good, but we can't do that every day.