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Help dealing with my partner

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Rothrock84

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Hello,
I’ve been dating my partner now for several months. The first few months were great. He went away on a family vacation and when he came back he started having paranoid delusions. He has told me about his mental illness. But these delusions are consuming him. He trusts no one, especially doctors. He believes “they” are holding him back in life. That “they” have done something to his body that causes him physical pain. He has told me he started taking meds but I’m really not sure he is. He is even afraid that “they” are after me to get to him. I care deeply about him. I see past all this and the good heart he has. I just don’t know what to say when he starts talking about this. He tells me he wants nothing more than to move on with his life and with me. But never seems to actually take steps to do that. I want him to enjoy life. I want to be there for him. Besides listening is there anything else I could be doing? Thank you for any feedback.
 
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Zoe1

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I think there is a paradoxical thing with this
without actually leaving him
you need to pull away slightly

that illness is very deep
and you wont be able to ' fix ' it
its a case of deciding whether you can live with him as he is

of course he may improve
but some people with these illnesses only improve a little bit
so that they are enjoying life in spite of their illness

you need to do alot of self caring as well
making time for yourself and your other friends
making sure you dont isolate, that you have time for your own interests ...

:hug5:
 
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Rothrock84

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Thank you! That really helped. I think I’m realizing I need the self care and to keep my friends close. I’m taking it one day at a time. Deep down I believe he’s worth it. Not sure what the future holds but for now I want to make it work.
 
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Sammyjames97

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I hope it goes well for you two, it's a shame what this illness does. I've been psycotic and paranoid for 2 years now, to the point I distanced myself and drifted away from friends and almost lost my girlfriend several times. It would be a sad thing if he ended up alone, it's nice you aren't scared away from him over all this, i know about a man near me who has only had one girlfriend and lived life alone as a schizoprenic. As long as you don't believe he is a danger I would try your best to make it work. Is he on tablets at all? It helps people a lot to be on medication
 
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