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TheSwiss
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Well, it is nice to see a forum exists where I can hopefully get some useful help so firstly, thank you all. As long as I can articulate what's going on in my swede I am hoping you can help! Always the tricky bit eh!?
Right, for some time now (approx 6 years) I have been aware of my anxiety/depression and panic and it is starting to get worse and worse, causing me a number of issues. It comes and goes and I can usually fight it head on as I am aware of it and know its irrational behaviour but I am struggling to function correctly right now.
Triggers - I feel that my anxiety is caused by FEAR as well as my self-awareness coupled with my ability to 'read people'
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Over the past 6 or so years I have had a 3 relationships and ALWAYS after approx 14 months I get horrendous anxiety about the realtionship. It is not fear of committment as such but more fear of going too emoitionally deep with someone and getting kicked in the balls. The fear IS irrational and I do get a mine field of vivid thoughts and images about what she could be 'upto' - it is not the fact that she could be doing something that troubles me but more the fact it's behind my back and I am in the dark - paranoia if you will. I trust her implicitly but its other people I dont trust. Its awful not to be able to trust. I literally trust no one but myself.
Work - My job is pretty stressful and I have some big clients to look after. I always give it 110% and do a good job but in some instances I give it too much which causes me excessive stresses and strains. I get emotionally involved in my work and demand a great deal out of myself whilst not loooking after number 1. I have the inability to say NO which results in greater workload (people love working with me
and I am a typical Yes Man.
Within my role I have to do a lot of presentations and meetings and my anxiety really has started to kick off and I panic and sweat and stumble - not my usually free flowing self.
Mental Self - I have a deeply creative mind and an inate ability to analyse everything. I mean everything! Partly because my job requires this and partly because I am looking to catch people out. I suffer greatly with depersonalisation (feeling detached from oneself) and can live deep in my thoughts/sub-conscious. Derealisation (feelings of unreality) is also an issue totally feeling absent and just an observer as life passes me by...weird huh? I cant tell you the last time I actually felt THERE. I am always sat back, analysing stuff and making my own mind up.
££££ - skint. I earn £36k per year and I have no money
. Last month I incurred bank charges of £450 a month. Idiot. Anxiety and Panic flared up again here - this was my most recent incident and probably the trigger.
Talking about it - I hate talking about it to my GF. It's not fair. Ultimately I believe she will think I am mental and it will push her aware. She is aware that I have anxiety issues as I practically drink St Johns Wort and Rescue Remedy. However, as I am aware of my issues (and feeling it) I can barely talk anyway as I am scared what may come flying out of my mouth.
My GP is an arrogant ass and I wouldnt even broach the subject with him!
I did go to see a councillor once but I got the sense they werent interested in ME. Only my money.
Alcohol - This is becoming more an issue in the sense that when I have a few pints it starts to surface, I can feel it bubbling under and if one thing winds me up I am literally on the edge - I have stopped drinking because of it cos I can feel my mind about to snap. Not good. I am away to a foreign land for a stag do in two weeks as well - cant drink cos my mind will snap in a foreign land!
So, if anyone can make any sense of this. Perhaps give me some initial steps to break this down that would help!
Thanks. Any assistance is great!
Right, for some time now (approx 6 years) I have been aware of my anxiety/depression and panic and it is starting to get worse and worse, causing me a number of issues. It comes and goes and I can usually fight it head on as I am aware of it and know its irrational behaviour but I am struggling to function correctly right now.
Triggers - I feel that my anxiety is caused by FEAR as well as my self-awareness coupled with my ability to 'read people'

Over the past 6 or so years I have had a 3 relationships and ALWAYS after approx 14 months I get horrendous anxiety about the realtionship. It is not fear of committment as such but more fear of going too emoitionally deep with someone and getting kicked in the balls. The fear IS irrational and I do get a mine field of vivid thoughts and images about what she could be 'upto' - it is not the fact that she could be doing something that troubles me but more the fact it's behind my back and I am in the dark - paranoia if you will. I trust her implicitly but its other people I dont trust. Its awful not to be able to trust. I literally trust no one but myself.
Work - My job is pretty stressful and I have some big clients to look after. I always give it 110% and do a good job but in some instances I give it too much which causes me excessive stresses and strains. I get emotionally involved in my work and demand a great deal out of myself whilst not loooking after number 1. I have the inability to say NO which results in greater workload (people love working with me

Within my role I have to do a lot of presentations and meetings and my anxiety really has started to kick off and I panic and sweat and stumble - not my usually free flowing self.
Mental Self - I have a deeply creative mind and an inate ability to analyse everything. I mean everything! Partly because my job requires this and partly because I am looking to catch people out. I suffer greatly with depersonalisation (feeling detached from oneself) and can live deep in my thoughts/sub-conscious. Derealisation (feelings of unreality) is also an issue totally feeling absent and just an observer as life passes me by...weird huh? I cant tell you the last time I actually felt THERE. I am always sat back, analysing stuff and making my own mind up.
££££ - skint. I earn £36k per year and I have no money

Talking about it - I hate talking about it to my GF. It's not fair. Ultimately I believe she will think I am mental and it will push her aware. She is aware that I have anxiety issues as I practically drink St Johns Wort and Rescue Remedy. However, as I am aware of my issues (and feeling it) I can barely talk anyway as I am scared what may come flying out of my mouth.
My GP is an arrogant ass and I wouldnt even broach the subject with him!
I did go to see a councillor once but I got the sense they werent interested in ME. Only my money.
Alcohol - This is becoming more an issue in the sense that when I have a few pints it starts to surface, I can feel it bubbling under and if one thing winds me up I am literally on the edge - I have stopped drinking because of it cos I can feel my mind about to snap. Not good. I am away to a foreign land for a stag do in two weeks as well - cant drink cos my mind will snap in a foreign land!

So, if anyone can make any sense of this. Perhaps give me some initial steps to break this down that would help!
Thanks. Any assistance is great!