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LostSpirit

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Hi, I'm 33 and married

I had a bad childhood and have spent most of my life having really low moods bordering on depression.

One of the main things is I've never had any confidence or believe I'm good at anything.

I've never suffered terribly from aniexty in the past, but the last 8 weeks have felt like hell.. I had started to notice more than norm when I'm out people who are slimmer and prettier than me, if someone looks at me I feel its because they think I'm ugly, or if someone talks to me I cant look them in the eye anymore its if I dont feel worthy,

So much so its keeping me awake at night I cant eat properly and my heart feels so heavy like I constantly walk about with this sadness, I have been signed off work as I work 14hr shifts and felt I couldnt manage this has put pressure on family with no income just SSP which isn't enough to pay Bill's, I force myself to go out as I know if I dont I wont leave the house, I'm becoming snappy and a horrible person.

My hubby and family do not understand as they havent experienced it and saying 'get over it, hurts even more.

Whenever I felt low I could always pull myself out of it.. this time I cant.. :(
 
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people dont think you are ugly
and you're not a horrible person !

probably you are comparing yourself to the people
in the advertisements on telly
which alot of them are airbrushed !

:welcome: 💜
 
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LostSpirit

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Thanks for the welcome ❤

I guess I've never felt comfortable in my own skin and yes it dont help in this day and age a certain look is classed as beautiful and pretty. X
 
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yes its rubbish though isn't it
lots of unique people are attractive in different ways
especially if they feel confident being themselves

💜 🌠 :loveshower:
 
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I have exactly the same problem and feelings about my looks x
I actually think I am the ugliest girl in the world even though people tell me im not x
im sure you are beautiful inside and out but you just cant see it x
welcome to the forum
love fairy Lu xxxx
 
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LostSpirit

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Thanks lu
I guess it's easier for our minds to just concentrate on the negatives x
 
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if you think about how you see guys
you would not want a perfect muscle man probably
with the 6 pack and all
you would want a person that you love as a person

I dont think men actually think differently in the end
except maybe teenage men

they grow to want a person just like we do

:hug5: :loveshower: :loveshower: :loveshower: 🌠
 
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Oh I get what you are saying about "get over it" another one of these popular comments are "pull your socks up"
They are just very narrow minded people.
On here we all understand how these comments make us feel.
 
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I guess I've never felt comfortable in my own skin and yes it dont help in this day and age a certain look is classed as beautiful and pretty
:welcome: to the forum LostSpirit and sorry i'm late welcoming you :hug:
If you don't mind me saying but I think how your feeling stems from your past, I've got a ghost history from my past that I live with daily plus still mention at times to my husband and he said try and forget it but it's hard but if you've gone through belittling of your self esteem you wouldn't believe how it haunts you and carries on through and if this is the case it's dragging you down even though your married with children, it plays on the mind.
 
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